Monday, June 25, 2012

Thank You, Suze Orman, for Showing Me the Error of My Ways


FEBRUARY 20, 2009 10:20AM

Thank You, Suze Orman, for Showing Me the Error of My Ways

RATE: 89
Thanks to Suze Orman, I finally get it.  I finally understand why it’s been so difficult for my family to stay afloat financially.  Apparently, my current money woes have nothing to do with the national recession but are actually a result of my own ineptitude.  I’m so grateful that she’s let me know this so that I can start right now to turn this thing around.  Here’s some of her advice:
Cut out all unnecessary spending.  What a brilliant idea!  Why didn’t I think of that?  Oh, wait.  I did.  Because I am a member of the working class, unlike Ms. Orman who is worth in excess of $32 million, my recession actually started a few years ago.  Everything that could be eliminated has been eliminated for some time now.  Lattes at Starbucks?  Premium cable service? Are you kidding me?  They’ve never been in my monthly budget.  No, my current list of “unnecessary spending” includes the following:  health insurance, dental expenses for my children, car repairs, eye exams, and mammograms.  They’re easier to do without than home heating oil, food, and a place to live. 

Pay off all credit card balances in full each month.  This must be why she gets paid the big bucks, dispensing gems of advice like this.  That’s right, Suze.  choose to carry a balance on my credit cards because I enjoy paying all of those obscene finance charges.  Is she serious?  What person willingly carries a credit card balance?  She apparently isn’t aware that some of us had to rely on credit cards when the cost of gas and home heating oil skyrocketed. She also isn’t aware that some of us needed to use credit cards to pay for unexpected medical expenses because our meager savings were spent on frivolities such as mortgage payments and food when our income dried up.  If my income is now decreased or non-existent, how on earth can I afford to pay off my credit card balances each month?
 
Save the equivalent of 8 months of living expenses.  Here’s another “what planet is she living on?” moment.  Remember when financial experts used to advise having 2 months’ worth of living expenses squirreled away in case of an emergency?  Now we’re all apparently losers if we don’t have 8 months’ worth.  8 months!  Go ahead; do the math for your own situation.  Are you able to save that much currently, while being out of work or underemployed, and after losing your savings in the stock market collapse? Earth to Suze:  if what we’re currently living in right now isn’t an emergency, I don’t know what is.  At my current rate of indebtedness and underemployment, I should have enough saved in, oh, 85 years or so.
 
Pay off your mortgage early.  Sure, Suze, I’ll get right on that.  Right after I finish selling my eggs and my blood plasma in order to be able to afford this month’s mortgage payment.  Are you on crack, woman? Just because you have the means to charter private jets at the cost of $500,000 per year, or toinvest "a million dollars in the stock market, because if I lose a million dollars, I don't personally care," not all of us do.  Most people I know are too busy trying to avoid homelessness and do not have money left over to pay anything extra on anything.  Perhaps it would be helpful if you took some time to find out how things really are among us bottom feeders, the ones from whom you’ve been amassing your $32 million net worth, before you dispense any more useless, psychologically punishing advice.
 
Instead of relying on out-of-touch financial experts for tips on how to survive the recession, perhaps we should all turn off the TV, survive the best we can, and stock up Prozac instead.   




blogspot visitor counter

Comments

Lisa, we've been over this: chocolate is cheaper than Prozac. Right now, what you really want to be doing is stocking up on Cadbury eggs.
Dear Dog, yes. This mindset infuriates me.

Ever since I graduated college (deeply in debt, because not one dime of the expenses came from my sole surviving parent, and how is an 18-22 year-old supposed to earn $25K/year while going to school full-time to break even?) the "financial experts" have tsk-tsked me for not a) SAVING MORE and b) INVESTING MORE.

Every financial advice book and talking head assumes you're not starting from the bottom of a 100-foot hole.

The "common wisdom" is useless for anybody who didn't get a golden rocket launch into adult life from upper-middle-class parents.
I heard a bit of her yesterday on The Today Show. The part about having 8 months living expenses saved stopped me in my tracks. I have heard other numbers in the past, but this one tops it. I know that I'm on the road to the poorhouse in my "golden" years, and I don't need Suze telling me about it. And any hopes of my kids taking care of me is a laugh.
Oh, Lisa, this is soooooo true, and all of this advise is delivered in that nails on a chalk board voice. Hell just might be a dinner party with her and Jim Kramer---I digress.

Hang in there, girlfriend. If life was more fair, you'd be earning bountiful bucks from your writing.
Lisa, she is useless.
Lisa,
While I love Suze and I think she has given great advice over the years, I have to give it to you.....you are speaking for millions! I'm not convinced that I can scrounge up a month's salary to put in savings these days....I'm just trying to keep my head above water. Ugh! Rated for excellence in humor!
Oh, thank God I'm not the only one who finds her advice irritating and inane.

Mrs. Michaels - You're right. Prozac is unnecessary when there's chocolate. See? That's why I'm broke. All that frivolous spending.

Verbal - Yes - not all of us had the benefit of an easy beginning into adulthood and wading through the past several years has been anything but profitable. "The bottom of a 100-foot hole" describes it perfectly.

Julie - Her bit on the TODAY show is what sent me over the edge. She has no clue what it's like out there for real people.

m.a.h - ::shudder:: A dinner party with Suze Orman and Jim Cramer is the stuff of which nightmares are made. Thanks for the compliment on my writing, though. :)

OES - You said it! I've never been a fan of hers (that voice! dear God...) but now I refuse to give her any of my time at all.
That chick is, (to quote Bugs Bunny) "What a mooroon!"
I watched her a few times years ago when times were good, and it struck me as utterly ridiculous that even in a good economy, when someone would call in and say something like "I'm supporting myself and my child off of $18K a year, how do I...." She would never offer the only advice that would have actually made sense. Go back to school, get a better job, move somewhere where the economy is better.

She really is utterly useless. The only people that I've ever seen her "help" are those that call in while completely in denial about their financial situation.
Good old Suzi, right on target. Except that some of us saw it more than two years ago and pulled out of the market in time and shorted the Diamonds and Spyders form over14000 on the Dow down to 8,000 beginning last August and where was she when I advocated that? Wasn't she still hawking stocks?
Thanks for this! I turned to this one hoping it wouldn't be an homage to the girl. I cannot tolerate her glib intensity and because I respond so strongly to who she is (and isn't) I can't even begin to make sense of her advice. Thanks for letting me know that I haven't been missing anything.
Mrs. Michaels is right. Prozak is way too expensive. Chocolate is a better way to go.
Lisa

Taking advice from millionaires and billionaires, especially at times like this, is like eating Ex-lax when you have diarrhea. If you didn't know you had diarrhea, I guess any advice would be beneficial. I hate the pretentious morons like Orman, Trump and Soros. They're usually simply looking for strokes to their pathetic egos and are completely out of touch with the real world.

rated for the irritation factor
I'm losing posts right and left... Let me retry:

This post is 'right on the money.' "On paper" we look like we made a good income; however, after we pay the mortgage, tuition, medical expenses and multiple insurances, we live paycheck to paycheck like everyone else. We have NEVER saved 8 months of living expenses, mostly because we are trying to save for "retirement" (what a folly that has turned out to be-- for every $1 we put in we get .60 cents return... can that be right?).

When Suze comes on my husband turns off the television (same for Dr. Phil -- is there some sort of a similarity between the two other than being sponsored by Oprah?..)

Denese
I have never understood how she has become so popular. I find her to be condescending and grating. Your post is right on!
Great post.. Gee you would think with her income she would understand the cost of living..
If I had as much money as her, I would buy more jackets and get my teeth darkened up to a nonfluorescent shade of white.

As it is, like Carter advised a long long time ago, I will put on a sweater.
onecorgilover - I agree. Her advice might have been relevant in more prosperous times, but these days, everyone is just trying to survive.

Bob and Ric - Thank you for stopping by!

Existence - Exactly! Her advice doesn't seem to be meant for people who actually need it.

Professor - YOU should be the one dispensing financial advice! I wish I'd known you prior to the downturn.

SeattleK8 - Homage? Oh hell no! Her appearance on the TODAY yesterday was the last straw for me. I certainly don't need a multimillionaire speaking condescendingly about a situation she knows nothing about.

C Berg - Aw, what would life be without chocolate?

JK - I wonder if she'd be as successful as she is without Oprah's support?
This is part of the whole blame-the-victim thing, the resentment politics that Saturn wrote about yesterday - only this is the smiley face of it:- You poor schmucks, let me tell you how to take care of yourselves, and don't ask me for any hand-outs.

And the odd 'luxury' is a Good Thing while living hand-to-mouth. A moment of pleasure amidst the drudgery and worry.
Terrible advice and mindset on her part. It's ridiculous.

There's this other guy, whose name I'm deliberately forgetting, who kept talking about buying a used car and paying for it in full as opposed to a new car. And I kept thinking, er, what if you can't pay for a car in full either way?!? Plus, when consideration of the car repairs a used car is likely to need much sooner and the need for a female to have reliable transportation at night, something that's not gonna crap out on the freeway ... lordy. He was clueless on reality. Or about people who took the bus.

Of course, he also pushed hard on 'invest in the market' because, you know, you can't go wrong there. Now, with all these people nearing retirement age whose savings have crapped out, I wonder what he's saying ...
Bob - I like your Ex-lax analogy. I want to hear from someone who's been there, done that, and lived to tell the tale.

Denese - I hear you. And as far as the people that Oprah chooses to support, her number one criteria must be their capability to annoy.

M B and fireeyes - Thank you!

Elizabeth - "putting on a sweater" is way too common-sense. Now if you want to know the cheapest place to charter a jet, she can help you out.
Myriad - Yes. That's it exactly: a blame-the-victim mentality and the condescension. Who needs "advice" like that?

Odette - That's one of my gripes, too. Let's see, if I start saving now, I can probably afford to pay cash for a car in the year 3024.
Suze Orman is a %^$@#&^%.

Kudos for the de-construct. Funny, piercing, a great read.

I have well-to-do relatives, almost all highly placed in financial institutions, who keep asking me, since last october, if it is really "that bad" out there. At first i thought this was disingenuous, or that they wanted my region's take on things.

Over the last few weeks it has become very clear that they truly don't understand how pervasive and deep our collapse is. Still.

For Suze, it is a matter of "buckle up, get tough" because she can't sell her own third home right now, and figures we are similarly "inconvenienced". The depth of her disconnect for ordinary Americans is breathtaking and I cannot watch one second of her ever again.
I once shared an apartment with someone who really needed an "expert" to tell her the obvious when it came to money. She needed the authority of an expert because she didn't have much respect for people who lived sensibly.
All of you secretly want to be Suze. Admit it. monkey fingered.
Sao Kay - I echo everything you say. Health insurance is another outrage. Instead of being made to feel shame for landing in such a predicament, through no fault of our own, it would be nice to hear worthwhile advice from people who haven't lost total touch with reality.

Greg - It's no stretch of the imagination to see that there's a huge gap between the rich and the rest of us. I thought that the stock market tanking would have helped the very rich to see what the rest of us already knew, but clearly all it did was merely to make them less rich.

Malusinka - There's no doubt that totally clueless people like your roommate are out there, but for financial experts like Suze Orman to insinuate that those of us who are struggling are in that same category is outrageous. By the way, it's great to meet you. Thank you for stopping by.
Lisa,

I have mixed feelings about this. Like most experts, Orman assumes money is there and just needs to be managed properly. There is a vacuum out their for an advisor who can offer anything worthwhile to folks living paycheck to paycheck.


On the other hand, she was one of the first women to scream at women not to count on anyone to manage their finances. A much needed message. While she may have ridden this wave of early admirers for way too long, she did at one point get some people to open their eyes. For example: My wife keeps all her money in her own accounts. We both pay into a household account for regular expenses, which I manage. If I ever decide to get drunk and go to Vegas, I have no way of bringing her money with me. I had an aunt who did not do this. Her husband cleaned her out and left her homeless in her mid-60's.

I don't watch Orman's show. I have merely caught a few snippets. When I see her, I find myself thinking, "I wish my daughter would watch this."
My only defense of Orman is that she does say that student loan debt is worthy and expected; her financial advice book for younger folks looks like it's pretty standard and practical, and doesn't focus on stock investing like so many do. That said, I think you're right, Lisa, that she hawks a lot of idealized "common sense." Sure, I'd be happy to have 8 months' salary saved, and I can see the value in it, but... yeah. Not realistic.
I've never liked her because of her obsession with credit scores. Makes her look like she's in cahoots with the credit card companies by encouraging people to raise their score to get MORE CREDIT! Which means she is contributing to a facet of the Big Problem these days. Yuck. She makes my skin crawl.
oh, so now it's suze orman's fault. her advise is always sound and you seem to stretch it and twist it to make your point. why do you begrudge her? if you had listen to her in the past maybe you wouldn't be where you are? suze orman used to be a waitress. maybe you could save some money by turning off your internet service.
i think she's got a sweetheart deal with the fund company she keeps pushing and that's why most of her advice doesn't suit the average person. I'm waiting for the bust.
I highly recommend you read Dave Ramsey's book The Total Money Makeover. It tells you exactly how to get out of debt.
I suggest Vodka instead of prozac ... or perhaps together they might get you through another eiposode of Suze. I'm pretty sure that her studio is set up like a jailhouse interrogation room. She sits in the room talking to herself in the mirror and they tape it from the other side ... cause I know she ain't talking to me!!!
oops ... forgot to say spectacular economic insight and splendiferous point of view!!!
There's always the point, which has certinly been made elsewhere and that you touch upon, that taking advice from someone who profits and capitalizes on the fact of our own personal misery is a win-lose situation.
It's also the moralizing factor that is constantly disturbing. I did the wrong things, you did the right things. WTF?
Mty mother and I go head to head with arguments, even though we're often on the same side. I respect my mom because she puts Suze Orman to shame in terms of smart investing, nest egging, penny pinching, saving.
My mom has it all figured out. She lost about a third of her retirement savings in the collapse, due to her "insane notion" that those stocks would be insured.
She grows tomatos in her tiny back yard. She owns her house outright - because she lives in a quasi bad neighborhood in a depressed city. I think she exemplifies urban renewal, and I look forward to gardening with her in April.
Suze Orman can kiss my ass, because I refuse to even bother with people giving advice for profit. My mom gives advice for free, (not that I always LOVE that advice), and lives her life according to her values, opinions and smarts.
She's 75 and thriving - and I plan to live life according to her, not according to profiteers who want to make me feel bad about being poor.
Poor is the new sexy!
Great one, here Lisa. Suze is a figurehead for the ruling class. The class of people who look at all of us lazy, low lives and just shake their heads. "Why don't they just listen and take action?" They say as they discuss us on the cell phones while driving their SUV's with their fat asses nurtured with a seat warmer. Let me add the crude but effective FUCK YOU SUZE to the dialogue. My patience is running thin with this douchebags who know nothing about the middle and lower class and could care less to learn. This bitch is paid by the corporations. She is nothing but a corporate mouthpiece and yet another reason to only watch old Perry Mason shows on television.
I think she represents an entire class of people who are becoming more and more visible as the economy worsens. And it's not a very nice class. With their wealth they should be stepping up to the plate to HELP people in need instead of preaching at them. I'm already beginning to see "cracks" in this echelon of the economy.

Thanks for posting this.
Oh come one guys, you know I got 8 months saved up, college tuition plans for my daughter, almost finished with my non-existent mortgage, and I don't see what the issue is here. (note the sarcasm in my tone) I think she is absolutely NUTS! I teach high school. I am trying to find an affordable home to buy and pay off bills (like the medical bill I got from getting the necessary mammogram last year and it's time for another one and I haven't finished paying off the 1st one). Or the small amount I am able to contribute to my savings and retirement and that is a struggle for me.

Maybe I should continue to work after school programs and Saturday programs just to keep my head above water.

Rated because that Suze is a damn NUT!
obviously a lot of you know nothing about suze orman.she is not in cohots with anybody. if you get you fico score from her website then she gets a piece of it, but you can get your fico score from many other places. otherwise she is totally self made. people first, then things, then money. have you ever heard that. that's her mantra. then jackets which was added by saturday night live.
Lisa;

I am very much with you on this topic. From reading many columns on financial "advice," I've come to the conclusion that the experts set up advice for those to whom it's easy to give advice--college students just starting out, newly married and having good credit, just retired and with good credit. No one wants the challenge of someone with middling credit, three jobs, overbearing school loans, no savings, no family and no discretionary income. Guess the default advice is work 'till you're dead!
And the odd 'luxury' is a Good Thing while living hand-to-mouth. A moment of pleasure amidst the drudgery and worry.

NO. No pleasure for you, prole! Your life is to be one endless string of drudgery, in which you strive for nothing but crumbs of the wealth enjoyed by your betters.

Why are they better, you ask? Why, because they are rich, of course.
My finances have fallen and they can't get up!
In Suze's defense she has a book called Young Broke and Fabulous that deals is youth orientated in dealing/living with debt from school and living off credit cards. There is some reality in that book. Also all those platitudes were supposed to apply BEFORE we went into a depression. She went on a speaking tour to bases and tailored her advice to military situations. The question and answer session helped quite a few folks out.
She runs seminars here in NYC I've heard about where after the presentation her staff meet with participants and put them into investments with one particular fund family--not simply recomendations--but actual investments.

Maybe, those who "know better" think she does that as a simple service, and all her money is made elsewhere, and she herself is not really in business, but a public servant with only the interests of others at stake.
i want to correct myself. people first, then money , then things, then jackets.
There are experts who believe we should be preparing for the collapse of the financial system (and civilization) as we know it. Under this mindset, cases of alcohol are much better for trading than worthless paper dollars.
Ok, Lisa, that was a clever column, and perhaps most of the regular middle class, including me, can't benefit from that particular advice. But she's not such a bad egg. I, for example, like her show when people call in and ask her if they can buy things and then tell her what they want to buy and how much they have to spend. It's quite entertaining and people are quite ridiculous!

And please remember: Suze, like Martha Stewart and other women entrepreneurs, made their own money on their own good ideas. I don't think we should begrudge them. Suze has written some sensible books and has made her own fortune. No one handed her (or JK Rowling to think of another gazillionaire) anything... What does it say about us that we find it amusing to make fun of her? Or what really is sound advice for a certain class of citizen? Her advice may not work for us but it would work well for those making, say, upwards of 75000 grand a year who are afraid they might lose a job. My husband and I have friends who have put away 2 years worth of salary over the past several years and it looks like they will need it. The wife is just about to lose her high end job and she's the primary wage earner, their house is upside down in value, and well, you know that song. They were solidly upper middle class until they weren't. Not everyone is poor. Yet.
To get a little political: read Robert Reich's blog for data on how working people's real income has declined in the last eight years, necessitating credit card debt for basic necessities.
I would love to invite this nut to come spend a week at my house. Then she could talk about what to cut when you have already cut everything. This woman needs a reality check.
Rated for Nailing it on the Head.
Lisa

Thanks for the enjoyable read - Please get one of those brown lunch bags you have been putting your jelly sandwiches in and start taking deep breathes into the bag - in/out/in/out - now there feel better - oh - your right what is good for you can be very bad for me -
Our family cannot bear to watch her. It's amazing anyone can. By the way, regarding her suggestion about saving up 8 months of expenses, my recent post Tax Policy and the Dewey Decimal System offers some thoughts about why this is hard for people to do. Since hardly anyone stopped by to read this post when it originally came out (usual problems with feed placement), maybe a few will still find it interesting now.

Anyway, great post. Rated.
pathetic. maybe if you put down the the bag of doritos for a minute and listened to her(suze) for a minute you might learn something. her advice applies to any income level and any body. i suppose you want financial advice from the guy begging for change at the intersection. after you read what you posted you should have changed the title to, "boy did i fuck up."
This is more evidence of how out of touch People With Money (PWM) can be. The Bush administration and its Republican Congress was jam packed with PWM, which is why their only solution to a bad economy is "tax cuts, tax cuts, tax cuts."

Apparently it never occurs to PWM that if you're not making enough money to support your family, you really don't need a handful of dollars a month from tax cuts. What you need is hundreds of dollars a month from more REVENUE.

We need an economic solution that starts at the bottom of the food chain, with those of us who need better paying jobs and more income from our small businesses.
I think you have to distinguish between long-term and short-term financial decisions. Suze's advice is usually good long-term stuff--8 months might have seemed like a lot once but there are a lot of people going that long between jobs right now, so even that starts to seem reasonable. But it's not practical information in the short term for the people who need the most help.

Dave Ramsey is better in some respects and worse in others. His budgeting information is very practical and helpful, but he's so dead-set against social services and government regulation that he'd never suggest bankruptcy or food stamps even when they really were financially the best option for someone genuinely struggling. And people in his forums actively mock those who get food stamps, it's sickening. By that standard, I guess, Suze doesn't seem so bad... but it seems sad that there's nobody in a similar position who's willing to put some time and effort into saying, "Here's how to find out if you qualify for social services and get them if you do. Here's where to go for emergency needs. Here's the 'essentials' you can do without for six months." That kind of thing.
the next time pbs has a fund drive, watch the suze orman,"women and money", you might learn someting. you like killing the messenger don't you.
I don't want to scare myself to death while treading water so I just don't listen to her.

Great writing Lisa!
I have a job. I work my tail off. My pay has dropped considerably and I don't have enough to make rent.

Clearly, I'm lazy and spending my money on frivolous things. Such as major medical as my company doesn't provide insurance and I was selfish enough to have a chronic illness and become suddenly sick. My credit has also taken a nose dive, which obviously is because I'm careless and irresponsible and has nothing to do with hospitalizations or the fact I cannot afford my meds or to see a doctor regularly. I deserve my fate. She deserves her $32 million dollar income telling me how to live.

Someone needs to tell her sponsors that we don't take kindly to people with a golden spoon in their mouths telling us we deserve to be poor.
it's quite simple really. start saving your lawn-mowing/baby-sittng money a a kid. work part-time at mac's in high school. invest all this in the share market.

live on dividends while you do university, a degree from harvard puts you in company with president bush, a great door-opener.

after you have your first million in municipal bonds, you have the security to look around for a suitable middle-class partner. your combined assets should allow you to reproduce.

this 'life counseling' is so easy, that i marvel anyone gets paid for it.
Once again, I have to profess my love for you! This is awesome. My mother (yeah, I know, I bring her up a lot) has NO IDEA how it is to live paycheck to paycheck and drops these little bombs of "wisdom" frequently. Not just stuff like this but stuff I'd have to be an absolute MORON to do, like the day she called me up and gave me a big lecture on how I should NEVER get a payday loan. "Uhh, thanks Mom. And I'll be sure not to play in traffic, too!" Rated for your awesomeness :)
You could send this as easily to your congressman or senator. As a matter of fact, you ought to. Very well done. Rated.
No shit, and I love the attitude. You rock.
This type of simple financial advice is useful for some people, although Suze Orman may not be the best one out there. I didn't know a damn thing about money until last year, had no money in savings, no retirement funds, nada. This year, thanks to some financial books and a lot of personal finance blogs (I especially recommend "Get Rich Slowly" and "The Simple Dollar"), I've learned a great deal and I'm in a much better position. I've still got a negative net worth, thanks to my $25,000 in student loans, I'm a long way from an 8-month emergency fund (I'm up to about 2 months, now) and my salary's nothing to brag about, but I've learned HOW to save money.

This type of advice may not be for everyone, but I think it is helpful to a lot of people out there.
is your favorite song, "poor pitiful me" by linda ronstadt?i am really suprised, and i can't believe what i'm reading. suze orman, suze orman you are against suze orman. unreal.
Lisa, her advice is not meant for you. Her advice is meant for people who don't understand that when you borrow money, you have to pay it back, usually with interest. You get that, but circumstances have forced you to borrow. Here's praying that you will be able to find employment soon that pays the bills and leaves a little left over every month.

Forget requiring personal finance classes in high school--although I think that would be a good idea. But really, this is not a hard concept to learn. A kindergartner who gets a five-dollar weekly allowance and who wants to borrow five more dollars to buy a toy can be told he has the choice of waiting another week and saving up, or of taking the loan and paying back six dollars. It will only take a few of those loans before the kid gets it and learns to save up instead. Somehow, though, a lot of people missed this lesson growing up, and now we're all paying for it.

(Warren Buffett recently gave an impromptu financial talk to a troop of Girl Scouts at an Omaha Dairy Queen--his advice to the girls was simple. Don't buy things with credit cards, because the interest rate on them is 18-20%, and "as rich as I am, I'd go broke if I had to pay 20% on money I'd borrowed.")
Hah, Lisa. Even if Suze Ormon deserves (or doesn’t) a more even-handed treatment, sometimes a rational, well-rounded POV just doesn’t exorcise the demons, eh! (Especially, if your subject is the salt-in-the wound of those demons). Great exorcism!
I get irked at some the financial "experts" coming on shows and giving this type of advice because it seems like they are preaching fire prevention after the fire has already started.

I try to keep in mind that there are people out there who could actually take Orman's advice before it's too late. I also watched a couple of her shows and remember her telling callers that they shouldn't make many of the purchases they were contemplating, so I give her a little credit for that.

That said, I wish she would actually give some advice that people on the edge could use. For example, she keeps saying to never, never pull from your 401K, which is good advice in normal times. However, rarely if ever, does she or anyone else point out that you can take money from a 401K to prevent foreclosure and not have to pay the 10% penalty. It's a hassle, but I know it can be done because we did it 15 years ago.

Keep giving the traditional advice, but also tell people how to make the really tough choices once the fire is jumping up to the roof.
The "wiki-truth" on Orman:

Orman was born on the South Side of Chicago, Illinois, in 1951 to Russian-Jewish immigrants Ann and Morry Orman, who ran a deli in Hyde Park. Orman came from a working class background and has said that she did not "grow up with money."

She was an undergraduate at the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign, from which she holds a B.A. in social work. In 1973, she moved with friends to Berkeley, California and lived for three months in a van on Hearst Avenue. She soon became a waitress at the Buttercup Bakery on College Avenue. In 1980, a longtime customer gave Orman a loan of $50,000 to help her fulfill her dream of opening her own restaurant. Orman invested the money at Merrill Lynch, but four months later was broke again, after she was swindled by her stockbroker.

Knowing that she couldn't make the money back as a waitress, and having started learning more about finances and investing, Orman returned to Merrill Lynch and entered their training program to become an account executive. She discovered through her training that her stockbroker had committed an illegal act and she thus sued Merrill Lynch. Suze received the entire $50,000 back plus interest and was able to pay back her former customer.

After she completed the training, she was hired by the firm and remained there until 1983 when she left to take a position as a vice president of investments at Prudential Bache Securities. In 1987, Orman resigned and opened her own financial planning firm, the Suze Orman Financial Group, in Emeryville, California. She acted as director of the firm until 1997, when she stepped down as her writing career took off with the publication of her second book.


Lived on the streets in a van, waitressed for seven years, got swindled and boot strapped herself. Doesn't sound too privileged. Sounds like a hard worker who crashed and burned, but learned from the experience.

Easy to hate on her now that she's made good.
1 Irritated Mother says "I suggest Vodka instead of prozac "

For something with a great taste, try Oban scotch instead. Damned good stuff.
A great take-down of Suze Orman. I've never actually watched her show, but I see this type of worthless 'financial advice' everywhere. They are all useless to anyone who is not a complete imbecile or nitwit. These same experts were just telling us to plow our retirement savings into the stock market not so long ago (....8% a year returns...). What a laugh.
I always get a kick out of the "experts" that have their own shows, or are guests on shows and all they say are the "duh George" statements. Great post Lisa. Down to earth and just out and out spot on.
Wow, so many visitors. Thank you! I'm sorry for the delay in responding. My work time was interfering with my Open Salon time again.

BBE - I don't necessary care about being Suze Orman but I'd love to have her bank account balance.

Jimmy - Suze Orman did offer great advice to women who'd been largely kept in the dark about finances. Since then, she's attemped to broaden her audience but with advice that's not relevant to today's economic climate.

Saturn - I'm so glad to see you here! I just wish that she would consider the current financial crisis when offering her advice. Is she really helping anyone who's in need of advice right now by telling them to put away 8 months' worth of living expenses? Not anyone in my social class anyway.

Ann24 - I can understand why she focuses so much on FICO scores. They are now used by just about every bank and creditor to determine creditworthiness. However, if the goal is to get the score as high as possible, this is not going to be accomplished by her advice to pay off your balance each month. A large part of a FICO score is the ratio of credit balances to total available credit. If you pay off your cards each month, there's no reason for the credit card company to increase your credit limit, which will make that ratio a lot narrower. Thank you so much for stopping by.
MJ GOTT - Wow, I certainly seem to have hit a nerve with you!

I am sure that Suze Orman is a delightful person, and I do not blame her for the economic mess that we're in currently. In fact, her advice is sound for people who are starting at a stable place in life with no debt. She's also given wonderful advice to women who had previously been uninformed about finances, perhaps because their husbands always paid the bills, or they were never taught about managing money in the first place. No complaints there.

My complaint with her is that she is now offering advice intended specifically to help people through the current recession but without any of it being relevent to the current situation. How can people save 8 months of living expenses if they're barely paying their mortgages? How can credit cards be paid in full each month if they needed to be used as a last resort because all other cash has been spent or lost in the market crash?

Yes, she came from humble beginnings, but judging from her out-of-touch advice, she seems to have forgotten what it's like to live humbly. Thank you for your comments. I hope I've helped to better explain my intent.
This is fantastic! I am totally with you on all of this, and couldn't have said it better than you have. Nice to have some solidarity, too.

For many other reasons, not excluding her year-round tan, Suze O. bugs the crap out of me.
hmmm. I'm one of those people Suze talks about - I had saved 2 years worth of rainy day money by the time I was 28. I've never carried a balance on a CC and have always paid cash for purchases, like water heaters, dentist bills and cars. I paid for college in singles I earned waiting tables - grad school was a loan I paid off before the end of my first year working professionally.

I was raised by a parent who grew up in abject (chewing the inside of your cheeks because you're so hungry all the time) poverty. I have had a job since the day after I turned 14 (ahh Mcdonalds!). No golden spoon here, just a really hard worker. I've cleaned houses, public bathrooms, waited tables, wrote other people's dissertations etc. I can remember how joyful I felt when I only needed to work one job to support myself comfortably.

I really resent the idea only wealthy middle class people have the means or where-with-all to create financial stability for themselves. Life is hard, rise above it.
Ben - That would not surprise me. She's got to pay for those jets somehow.

The Buzz - Actually, I have read Dave Ramsey's book and I agree that his advice is practical and spot-on.

1IM - Aw, yes; can't forget about the vodka. Thank you for your kind words. :)

aim - Yes, that's what I mean. She's been making money off of women like me and then telling those same women that their hardship is their own fault. Also, she's doling out financial advice that she says is meant for a broad audience to help survive the recession but the advice is only relevent for the select few who already have a savings, zero balances on credit cards and student loans, and who are still adequately employed. I'm with you; I'm going to take advice from your mom!
Can't stands me no Suze Orman. Bad enough she can't even spell Suzie, but her voice makes me think I'm visiting Tex and Edna Boil's Prairie Warehouse and Organ Emporium.
And, unfortunately we've had people of her mindset that the "poor people are poor because they just didn't try hard enough!" running the country. They're the people who keep arguing for tax cuts for already rich people because "You shouldn't punish people for being successful!" They evidently have NO clue that being punished for NOT being successful sucks amazingly for the rest of us. Things are WAY out of whack, and we seem to have an economy that depends on people spending way too much on things they don't need.

Great post, and I've got a bellyful of righteous fire now, too.
I really wish I had $50,000 for some Merrill Lynch employee to embezzle. Someone gave this woman a hand up, plain and simple. I'm not holding my breath for that. I'm just hoping to get my job back so I can afford to go back to school.
Lisa,
Great post. I have shared your thoughts for eons. While I am not quite Rush Limbaugh, hoping for the failure of our president and our economy, I can't help but feel relief that while the rest of the country is in a downward spiral, I have a little time to get caught up. For the first time I don't have guilt that I am the only one who isn't living the high life.
hey lisa,
what she talks about are goals. yes these are extraordinary times,and can call for extraordinary steps, sometimes. look before you leap.and thank you.
I agree this advice doesn't take into account those who are already doing what she says and far far more (and I posted about this myself, a while ago in my "Out of Affluence" post) and that at this point she's a clueless millionaire BUT I also have the unpopular position that you can save money even when making very very little - I did that even when I was living on a tiny income and surviving on stuff like homemade onion soup. You can't save a lot but every dollar counts that you tuck away for later when you need it. Maybe I'll blog about that some time.
I hate to be the voice of dissent, but I know people who could really use Ormon's advice. My mother and sister are both earning working class salaries but keep racking up credit card debt on clothes, vacations and eating out. They have very little savings. It's not that they couldn't save on their salaries, it's that they have no ability to defer gratification.

I also have a friend who just leased a BMW and is constantly buying new goodies--an iPhone, Coach bags, vacations to Las Vegas, etc. She's in debt and has almost no savings despite having a decent income.

I have tremendous sympathy with anyone who has lost their job and/or has medical expenses--I went through both those things myself and it was hell. But the reality is a lot of people are still living beyond their means and are setting themselves up for financial disaster. Those people are the audience for Suze Ormon.
Spud - I'm guessing that you're not renting any private jets either? Thank you for stopping by. :)

From the Midwest - I had thought that one good thing coming out of the economic crisis would be that the rich, who were heavily invested in the stock market, would finally get a taste of how the other half struggles. It seems that the only thing that happened is that most of us became poorer while all of them only become less rich.

Olga - Yes, I did catch your sarcasm and I think it's wonderfully appropriate. :)

Gabriel - Nice to meet you. Sadly, the "work-til-you're-dead" approach is going to be the only option for most of us.

Well What - Yes, that's what it feels like: we don't deserve any luxuries (like mammograms, huh?) unless we've had only good fortune, a great start in life, a high income, and invested just perfectly.

Michael - Bwahahaha!

Homer - Not quite sure how to respond to that.
Hipployta - I know the book you're speaking of and agree that the advice is timely especially for young people with student loans. I didn't make it clear in my post, but my complaint with her was after seeing her on the Today show, supposedly offering tips to help survive the recession. She's using the same advice during this situation as she uses in more profitable times. I can't help but think that she's alienating many, many people (including me) simply by being out of touch with what people really need now.

Ben - Hmmm....sounds like a conflict of interest for sure.

angrymom - Bwahaha! I know what your saying but the image of you stockpiling liquor is a riot.

Lisa - I don't begrudge anyone profiting from a clever idea. I sure wish I could come up with one. My gripe with Suze Orman is that her advice for surviving the recession is no different from the advice she gives in good times (with the exception that she now wants us to save 8 months' worth of living expenses.) I just wish that she was more in touch with what we're all going through.

Df33 - YES, YES, YES! That's EXACTLY what I mean. Wages have decreased to the point that not only is saving impossible, but credit use is necessary to survive. Thanks for the blog recommendation. I will definitely check it out. Nice to meet you, by the way.

MissOjib - That's just it. Most of us have already cut everything that we can cut. It's bare-bones living now.

Gramps - I have to laugh about the brown paper bags. I don't even buy them; I re-use the ones that I happen to get from the pharmacy, etc. Is that frugal enough?

Kent - It's a crime that your post didn't receive better traffic; it's that good. I hope that people reading the comments here will check it out. Thanks for including a hotlink.

WhatsamattaU - I love your comment. It's true. What we really need is higher revenue, not more tax cuts. That extra $5 per week I'll save with a tax cut is not going to help much, but if I could get my income back up to where it was in 1999, I'd be a happy camper.

Monique - Thank you! :)

LandP - Mmmm...chocolate bunnies. Do you make them or buy them? I appreciate you stopping by to commiserate with me. I'll buy one of your pencils. :)

Susan - Yes, thank you... You've said it so much better than I did. Suze Orman's advice is helpful in the long term. Short-term in the middle of an economic crisis? Eh, not so much. It's like being told to measure for curtains for your mansion while you're living in your car. Not practical for the current circumstances. There's a huge need right now for survival advice.

Susanne - The treading water part takes all of the work, doesn't it?

Renaissance Lady - Someone in your situation is exactly the type of person I am trying to represent. You've tried to do it the right way but economic conditions and a spell of bad luck have ruined your plans.

Al Loomis - Yep, easy-peasy! Maybe you should be on TV instead of Suze.

jenshrader - Ha! I'm enjoying your "don't play in traffic" advice and your mom's "payday loan" advice. Thank you so much for your very nice comment. :)

cartouche - Thank you for the compliment. I have a feeling my senators are too busy responding to Stimulus hate mail or praise mail (Arlen Specter is one of my senators.)

wakingupslowly - Wow, thank you!!
Well, my friend.... You've done it again! Written a great post about a topic that hits home for damn near EVERYONE and done it with style, class and razor sharp humor! (And editor's pick, again!! I had to join just to be a part of the action!!!) You GO GIRL!

I can't stand that smarmy bitch anymore!! She can say anything she wants sitting on her $32 million (oh, no... I mean $16 million...) She 's so out of touch with us working folk, she's laughable....as you have so adroightly pointed out!

And I hear she's not even lisenced to be a financial advisor! Hey folks.... Let's NOT WATCH HER AT ALL ANYMORE!!!!!
mabinogi - It sounds like you have a plan that is working for you. Achieving financial security requires commitment, consistency, and patience, things that are in short supply in these economic times. I wish there were someone out there to give advice to those of us who don't have the time to spare. Nice to meet you, by the way.

Leeandra - Warren Buffet is right; credit cards are evil. I just wish there was another way when you've exhausted all other options.

David - Eh, what can I say? Sometimes we all need to stomp our feet and scream, "it's not fair!" It worked in third grade, didn't it?

flyover52 - yes, that's it exactly: how about some advice for when, as you so eloquently describe, "the fire is jumping to the roof."

BBE - I'm not hating on Suze because she's successful. I'm annoyed at her ability to offer any practical advice for the current times. I want her to remember those hard times and tell us how she got through them, not that we need to save 8 months for an emergency when we're already living paycheck to (hopefully) paycheck.

Homer - Again, I'm just not really sure how to respond to you.

Bob - Thanks for the tip about the scotch. I think angrymom already has some stockpiled.

icemilkcoffee - Like your stock market example suggests, no one can possibly know the right thing to do in all instances. We have to do what's best for our own situation. I certainly don't want to be treated in a condescending fashion for it, though!

Mary - Ugh - experts! The only ones worse than money experts are weight loss experts: eat less, exercise more. Well, now, isn't THAT something new to try!
Perfect tone and writing lisa -- thanks for telling my story too!
Good call on the prozac -- it comes in generic now!
I'm once again amazed at the "I can't do it" mindset I see.

My parents have never run a balance on any of their credit cards. Ever.

They raised three kids and put them through college, and for the first 13 years of my life, they did it on one income.

It wasn't easy, and I'm sure it wasn't fun for them a lot of the time. But you know what?

They did it.

So you'll excuse me if I don't buy the woe is me and I can't do it because of this that and the other.

If my parents could raise three kids and put them through college without ever running a balance on their credit cards, then it is possible.

Oh yeah, and they weren't born rich, either. My dad came here with $1,000 in his pocket and that was all he had.
Palindrome - Thank you for such kind words! Yes, there's plenty of solidarity here. :)

sueinaz - Thank you for sharing your point of view. It certainly sounds as if you've worked very hard and done everything as you should have. I'm not belittling your accomplishments because you deserve every good thing that has come your way. I greatly admire your tenacity. I just hope that you're aware that there are people out there who work very hard, too, but life has thrown them insurmountable obstacles, causing them to get off-track financially. These are the people who need help getting back up; people who work two and three jobs and still can't make enough money to keep their home; people who've lost their job through no fault of their own, but because of a skittish society reeling from the economic crisis. These people don't need a lecture; they need a game plan. Telling them to save for 8 months' living expenses doesn't seem to be of much help.

Wayne - You always make me laugh!

Shiral - Just promise that you'll use that belly full of righteous fire for good, not evil, purposes. :)

Katina - That's another issue right there: schooling. Why is it so hard for so many in this country to be able to afford college? I hope that you can find a job soon.

Greer - I know what you're saying. For once, the entire country is losing (some more than others, but that's another story.) Very nice to meet you.

Silkstone - Don't apologize for believing that you can still save while earning very little. That's precisely the sort of advice I want to hear. I want to believe that I can come out of this financially intact instead of spiralling further down, through no fault of my own. I will check out your "Affluence" post. You should consider posting about your advice. It would be timely for sure.

AR - I'm sure you're right; there are still people out there who are in major money denial. Perhaps my essay is a bit narrow in that I hadn't considered that population. The people who I encounter are in a similar predicament as I am: income decreased, expenses increased. If people are making good money and still being foolish with their money, then absolutey, let Suze have a go at 'em! By the way, it's very nice to meet you.

Elise - I'm thrilled to see you in my comment thread! Why did you refer to Suze's $16 million? Did she lose half of what she had? I hope she managed to put away that 8 months' of living expenses. Those private jets are expensive. Thank you for stopping by (and for joining Open Salon!)

Whew! I think I responded to everyone. I apologize in case I missed anyone. It was NOT intentional. Thank you ALL for stopping by to read my post and leave such terrific comments. I truly appreciate it, even if you didn't agree with me.
Oops - I missed Cindy and Tony.

Cindy - Thank you! We're going to be needing that generic Prozac, being without health insurance and all that.

Tony - I was hoping you'd show up. You always give good advice. I hope that you will consider this a challenge to tell all of us who maybe aren't making it through this recession so nicely what we can do NOW to get back on track.

By the way, I'm sorry, but I don't think that your argument about your parents putting three kids through college holds a lot of cred these days. It was a lot easier to support a family when you went to college (how many years ago?) than it is today. How much was your tuition? The cheapest tuition I've found (I have a kid in college) is $12,000 per year at a state school. That was likely the amount of all four years of school for you at a private school. I'm not being argumentative; I just think things are very different now. Incomes have gone down while the cost of everything has gone up exponentially.

Please message me if you do decide to do an advice post. Thanks for stopping by.
Well, Lisa, here's something for a start.

Gas used to cost more than $4 a gallon. Now it's at around $2 a gallon.

You had to scrape and scrimp and struggle to fill up the tank when it was $4 a gallon but you managed to find a way to do it, right?

Okay. So pretend that gas is still $4 a gallon and take the difference between what it cost you to fill up the tank then and what it costs you to fill up the tank now.

Let's say you've got a 15 gallon tank and fill up your car every two weeks. That means every two weeks, you've got an extra $30. That's an extra $60 a month.

Take $30 of that, and put it into a money market fund or a savings account at your bank. And take $30 of that and pay that much more on your credit card.

At the end of the year, you will have put $360 into savings, and you will have collected interest on it. And you will have paid an extra $360 on your credit cards and saved the interest you would have paid on that.

Is this a panacea? Is this a magic bullet?

Absolutely not. But you know the proverb about how a journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step?

This is that single step.

I should have learned from my parents, because I screwed up. In November 2007, my total credit card debt was approximately $34K. Why? Because sales is a very economically sensitive career field, and I lost my job in 2002. When I got a new one, it paid a lot less than what I was used to. But I insisted on continuing to live like I did before I lost my job in 2002.

Well, the net effect of that was racking up $34K in credit card debt until I got pissed off about it and did something about it.

I entered a debt management program. The credit cards were closed, and the interest rates were reduced. Citi dropped it to 9.9 percent; Macy's to eight percent; Discover to 6.99 percent; Chase to six; and B of A to four.

As of January 2009, my credit card balance was down to $25K. I've paid $9K off over the course of 13 months. I will be debt free in December 2011. And you better believe that once I am debt free, I will not do this again.

Do you need all of the credit cards you have? If you do not, then I'd suggest you contact a credit counseling company and see if you can enroll in a debt management program. You will be required to close the cards you enter in the program but if you can, it will be worth it.

If I didn't enter the program, I would need until August 2043 to pay off the balance I owed. I'd also pay $311K in interest.

Because I entered this program, I will pay off the balance I owe in December 2011. And I will pay
Sorry...got cut off

I will pay $2,317 in interest.

You do the math. Pay the credit card companies $311K and take until 2043 to pay off the balance? Or pay them $2K and pay it off in 2011?

You can do the same thing. I'm not one of the masters of the universe collecting seven digit bonuses. I'm just a middle class -- okay, maybe upper middle class -- guy who made a mistake and found a way to fix the problem it created.
For people in real financial distress, this advice from Suze Orman is in "let them eat cake" mode.

It's reasonable advice for those for have enough money to make it even possible, but it's worthless for people struggling to meet necessary expenses.

In defense of some gratification not delayed...just how many years do I need to delay having some gratification in my life?...
Oh, and no, I think my dad wishes $12K was all he had to pay for my college education.

He paid about $40K for me, and I was the cheap one. My sister ran him around $100K, and that was just for undergrad. Her med school cost another $50-60K. My brother came along and he cost my dad around $60K for undergrad and another $60K for law school.

Look at it this way. You know the $311K in interest I'd have to pay the credit card companies if I didn't enter the debt management program?

My dad coughed that up to pay for the education of his children.

It can be done. My dad came here with $1000 in his pocket and a trunk. And he managed to get himself an education and the skills needed to raise three kids and send them to college.
SuznMaree - I hear you. It seems like it's been so long without the smallest little indulgence. I truly hope that all of the fear abates soon so that employers will stop bleeding jobs and we can all get back to the business of living.

Tony - Thank you! THAT'S the kind of advice I want to hear. Tell people about credit counseling, hit them with the reality of the credit card interest rates, show them creative ways to "find" money that can be saved without being missed. People need financial advice for how to make it now, not when things are better, or what they should have done but didn't. Maybe you can be the financial adviser for the rest of us? Thanks for being such a good sport and posting some practical advice.
I'm happy to give people any advice they want. I've even started a blog that focuses on investing to help people get an idea on how to invest. Check it out -- it's linked on my homepage here.

If you want advice, you may want to listen to Dave Ramsey. You know, he was wealthy and then went bankrupt and struggled back to where he is now. I don't like his politics, but his financial advice is sound.

And like Ramsey, I'd say this. You don't know what you're spending on until you track it. You can do this in many ways. You can buy something like Quicken, which will help you track your expenses. Or you can just use a little notebook, and write down all of your spending.

Do this for a month. Then ask yourself -- what am I spending money on that I don't need to? What am I willing to give up in order to get in better financial shape?

Let's say that you eat a pizza every week and you get it delivered. It's not extravagant. It's certainly understandable.

But it will run you $15-20 to get one of those delivered.

Instead of doing that, why not stop at the local Safeway or grocery store on your way back from work and pick up one of the ready to bake pizzas for $7? You just saved $8 on your pizza, or over 50 percent. And if you do that once a week, that's an extra $416 you save over the course of a year which you can use to pay down debt or put into savings.

Guess what we just did the two little tips I mentioned?

We just managed to find you over $1,000 to use to pay down debt or to save.

Is this going to turn you into Warren Buffett? Absolutely not.

But it will help you build up your savings and it will help you pay down your debt.
Slate had an article putting her in her place a couple of weeks ago. I once heard a caller tell her that she did not make enough money to follow SO's advice. SO told her to get a better paying job. We just aren't thinking.
On the target again, Lisa. You are on a ROLL. Good on you!!

Monte
Maybe many of you here are not in a position to be advised by Suzie and you are doing the best you can. The point is there are many that can do what she says and just refuse to do so because it cramps their style. Yes they buy $600 iPhones and drink Starbucks coffee. And these are the ones that are going to get mortgage bailouts. Because they have 50% of their income going to mortgage. And the other 50% goes to useless crap instead of savings.

I'm sure many are never in the position to get ahead by 8 months. But you must realize that many are and do not. You should be angry at them and not Suzy because she is talking got them; not you.
And they are presenting to the world that they are in the same dire straits as you when they are not. They say the mortgage is too much of a burden for them but it isn't if they hadn't taken on the 2 expensive vehicles after buying the house. But now Obama does not distinguish between you and them, So you get help to make the basics. They get help and keep the cars and bullshit.
I wonder if I will get help. I got laid off. I have an $875 payment. With only unemployment I will hardly make the payment. But, I have the cash to pay the mortgage in full in the bank. Will they notice that fact and reject me or will they reduce my interest rate.
This is what is wrong with the simplistic test of 31% of income.
The test needs to look at the total household situation to see who deserves help based on actual income and the necessity of the other expenditures. The people Suzie and I are describing will become the abusers of this system while you are the legitimate users of the system.
That Prozac's gonna cost you about $400 a month, unless you buy generic and then it may not even work, so, nope, no help in that corner either...
oh, dear, seems I should have read other responses first...chocolate instead of Prozac...
Lisa,

I understand your frustration, I really do.

My point is simply this, if you want financial stability, enough to weather rough times it's possible but it requires a level of work and sacrifice that cut deep. I'm talking about second and third jobs - sharing your home with borders - living without a car - living with extended family- sleeping in 3 sweaters so you don't need to turn on the heat- having your kids help you clean the dentist's office every weekend for a few months to offset the cost of the bill (my teeth are gorgeous - thanks dad!)...

These are things most people would rather avoid, but for people like me they were basic, practical ways to get ahead. It's possible, it's hard - and a tremendous number of people do this every day.
Hey Lisa:

i think there is a need to not be so black and white. Credit cards are not necessarily evil if you are careful. I have had the same Chase card for 20 years and my interest rate on it is 5.44 percent. NOT 15 or 30 percent. I am responsible with it and pay it down or off. In fact, I have been building up frequent flier miles on it for years, and am now able to fly myself and my daughter to Paris, round trip, to celebrate her 16th birthday in two weeks. We are staying with a good friend so the trip is almost free! In a recession, we are going to Paris. And I have very little money. So. Sometimes things work.

Also, re your other work. Diet and exercise CAN work. Honest.:)

Love.
Tony - Thank you again. I think I am doing some things, but not all the way, as I should. For instance, in your example with the take-out pizza: I stopped buying a weekly pizza and instead managed to find frozen ones at my grocery store which cost 2 for $8. However, I was NOT putting the savings aside to use toward debt repayment. I imagine that it's instances like this where money could be saved without really missing it, a little at a time.

I appreciate this kind of practical, smart advice. I will check out your blog. Thanks again.

P. S. Thank you, too, for sharing your own credit nightmare as an example. It's inspiring and helpful.

latethink - I've seen the Slate article, and might possibly have linked to it here (I know I considered it but I had so many examples from which to choose.)

Monte - Thank you, my friend! Your support means the world.
We can all be like SO if we were constantly being asked to be on this show and that and having thousands of dollars roll in that way. Suze, I'm sure, doesn't have kids coming up to her at ten pm on a school night showing her school shoes that have instantly developed an hole in them and need to be replaced RIGHT NOW!

My mom has given me a few of her books. I haven't read them. My budget is tight. I'm such a no frills person that I can't cut anything out. The only things I buy for just me is my underwear and I'm not willing to give that stuff up.

Your post has actually spurned a huge conversation between me and my husband. Thanks for that. He needed something to talk about now that football season is done.
Joseph - You bring up legitimate concerns. Obama has said that it is not his intention to "reward irresponsibility" but I can't imagine how on earth he would police it. The entire situation is frustrating because so many people have played by the rules and yet been hurt by situations outside of their control. On the other side of the fence, there are always people who look to profit from everything without moral or ethical regard. It will be interesting to see how it all shakes out.

Marcelle - Thank goodness for the chocolate, huh?

sueinaz - It sounds like the best gift that your father has given you has been to be a great role model. Please don't think that I am minimizing hard work; I'm not. I currently work two jobs and have been looking for a third, but work in my area has all dried up. Still, I understand that these times call for thinking outside of the box. I wonder if my dentist needs someone to clean his office? Thanks again for your comments.

Lisa - Probably, some of us are better at managing finances than others, or perhaps some of us didn't start out level, at zero, but much lower, thanks to lack of support from our parents (I remember having to pay off a substantial amount of my mother's debt when I was 20. I had to work a 2nd job to do so, but that's another story) or other circumstances. Truthfully, if I can weather this financial storm, I'm sure that I will do things differently (follow the good advice presented here) in order to be able to ride out the next one in greater security. Thanks for your support, girlfriend!
Jess - Happy to help by giving hubby something to talk about. :) I hear you about the kids's shoes. I can't figure out if the shoes are made more flimsy these days, or if my kids are just hard on them but we go through shoes like crazy around here. I can usually find them cheaply for the youngest, but the older two are in men's sizes (my oldest wears a - get this - size 15EEE!) which are harder to find cheaply. And about the underwear? Last time I checked, that falls in the "necessity" column on the budget, so no guilt, OK? Thanks for stopping by.
Great post, Lisa. Rated
8 months worth of bill expenses saved!!??!
That actually makes me laugh out loud!
I saw this lady on TV Friday, I believe. I have never found her to be a good advisor, she merely repeats 'Common-sense' as if it were new and unusual. Sadly, common sense will not save us now, and these pecuniary pundits are so far out of touch they cannot comprehend how dire life is for so many of us. I live one pay check, one auto repair from the abyss. Have lived this way for years now, after caring for parents. When Suze got to her 'save eight months worth' mantra I felt like crying. I know it's weak of me, but there it is. My friends and I are growing veggies co-operatively. Fortunately we live in Dallas Co TX which has very good arable soil. I live in a tiny apartment with only a small balcony, so I start ornamentals and provide stuff like worms or things to plant. We did pretty well with peppers of all kinds, onions, lettuce, and we're trying potatoes, Romas, and red and black currants this year. We try for the most nutritious stuff, the most vitamin bang per buck.
As to paying off the credit cards.... yeah about that. Well I had to put all my utilities on credit cards last August. Then in September, I could only pay $20 to each, and wasn't able to catch payments up until November. I still haven't been able to pay off the cards because I foolishly insist on eating one meal a day. Lots of times my 'meal' is cheese and crackers or shredded wheat. I LOVE shredded wheat. Lucky me.
PS Lisa I really enjoy your writing! Full marks and rated!
junk1 - Yes, the idea of saving 8 months' worth of living expenses is quite overwhelming. At least you got a good laugh of it. We do need more laughter these days!

Maryann - I think there are going to be many of us growing gardens. Instead of calling them "victory gardens," we can call them "getting by gardens." I grow one every year but sadly, I'm not very good at it. My tomatoes end up small and my cucumbers always seem to get one disease or another. Thank you so much for stopping by and for the VERY nice compliments. You've made my day!
Wow, thanks for this. I've been wondering if I'm the only one feeling this way, not just about Suze. Every time I see I tune in to someone who's telling us how to save money during these bad times. I just sit there checking off their "solutions" ... "don't HAVE that, can't cut it out." ALREADY stopped that years ago etc.
Some of my recent favorites were to basically make your manicures and eyebrow waxings last longer by applying your own nail polish in between manicures and tweezing your own eyebrows. Really, it just makes you want to weep.
Just struggling to keep my health insurance that has huge increases every six months and a big deductible. Can't affort a doctor visit because I'm spending my money on insurance premiums (you know, just in case of something really big). Dentist? Ha. I know, I'll cut back on the weekly massage and facial.
WOW Lisa. You somehow finding a way to keep up with all this. You're an amazing person, I would be either be insane or dead trying to stay with all the responses.

Good job, Ms. L.
and the day she wore an outfit that must have cost at least $3000 she was talking about bread lines. she is totally irrelevant to those of us struggling.

thanks for this heads up and i wish you only the best.

paula
Tony's advice is very sound. I too was in credit card debt, but to the much more humble tune of about $5,000. In addition, I owed $7,000 on my car. I went on credit counseling too. This was in 1999. This was a very good lesson. I am now debt free, except for my mortgage.

I also married well. My husband is the king of frugality, and I feel accountable to stay within a budget. I was never particularly well off. I am a high school teacher. I did the debt management as a single woman.
Since I currently have no voice and little energy even for righteous anger, thank you deeply and sincerely for expressing it for me so well. The woman is a toad. A scurge on humanity. A vile snake oil seller.

If she and the Mighty Oprah care so much about the little people, let them open their freakin obscenely bulging pockets and pay off a few mortgages or credit card bills for the restofus.

Okay, gotta stop, got a coughing fit there. GREAT post!
alliswell - You are FAR from being alone! There are many of us in the same boat. I have to laugh at the articles I see for how to dress fashionably on a budget. They advise that instead of purchasing the jeans that cost $298, buy the ones that cost $125 instead. I'm sure I'm not the only one who would never dream of plunking down $125 for one pair of jeans! Those people need their heads examined. Thanks for stopping by. It's great to meet you.

Bob - How nice of you to notice! This one has been tough to keep up with but I'm trying. I appreciate your kindness.

Paula - Oh yes - two different worlds! I wish you the best, too.

yekdeli - It sounds like the credit counseling helped you, too. This is the sort of information that people need to hear about. It can provide quick relief in many cases. Thank you for taking time to read and comment. It's a pleasure to meet you.
Sally - I'm sorry to hear you're sick! My middle son has that cough and it's awful. I recommend lots of tea and honey and a bit of Vick's Vaporub under your nose for relief. I have a nasty but effective recipe for a cold that has garlic and cayenne pepper but I'll spare you that advice. Feel better soon!
Lisa - this is truly funny. You seem to have struck a bit of a lightning rod with the Suze Orman love/hate fest.

My opinion is closest to Lisa Solod Warren's above. I admire and even kinda like Suze, but like Rachael Ray, she has taken a good idea/enterprise and gone WAYYYY over the top.

I do like her People First, Money Second, Things third/last approach and believe her early books had sound advice for alot of us who were financial-phobes.

Having said that, she does right now seem like a bright-yellow-jacket shouting inanities futilely and shrillingly in the wilderness.
Lisa - Yes, there's been a lot of passion on both sides of the fence for this one! Thank you for joining in the fun. :)

Sully - You certainly sound like someone who knows what you're talking about. I guess Suze wants us all to tuck away all of our money (all 8 months' worth of living expenses) in a bank account earning 1 or 2% interest. Of course, even that would imply that we had money left over to tuck away. Thanks very much for your comments.
LOVE IT! LOVE YOU! Thanks for the post :)! Rated.
Sarah - Thank you! I always love it when you stop by. :)
Lisa--loved the post--anger used creatively. I completely get that your issue is primarily with SO's advice and not with her, per se, though when people are trowling on the BS and guilt, it's hard not to get a little personal. I've watched her show a few times, the one in which she give people permission to make purchases--or not. It amuses me to hear the financial situations of the callers. I keep wondering what they do and where they live that they've been able to pull money together at all. But when Suze continues to harp on the 8 months of savings, I just want to scream. I could probably put that away in about 8 months, if I didn't pay any bills, if someone else fed me, housed me, and paid all my bills.
What an interesting post--and comments!

I used to feel hopeless when it was just 6 months you were supposed to have saved! :-) Glad to know I'm not alone in my feeling.

I've never been good with money. It's not been a life priority and I've made some awful mistakes! I'm working on changing--a bit here and a bit there.

A tip for those of you worried about car maintenance and repair:

Check out high schools and vocational schools with Auto Shop!

I have my tune-ups and some other work done at the local high school (where I'd once taught). I pay with a gift certificate from a local auto-parts store but I never pay what I'd pay at a mechanics and the students are well supervised. I'm helping them and helping myself.
What a great post, Lisa. Thank you for acknowledging us working class schmoes! People like Suze have NO clue! I do need to fly to her planet one day. 8 months???? Puh-leaz. I wish I had the luxury to afford unnecessary spending - I'm not sure I even know what that is anymore. Excellent post! :)
Oh what deliciously deserved sarcasm! I love it! Nail on the head, woman. Sometimes I think that woman is trying to sunshine me to death. Rated.
Lisa Lisa Lisa, how many times have I told you that it's easy to put away 8 months worth for a safety cushion, you whip out the credit card and get a cash advance. I mean, it's not like it's REAL money.
Lisa, she's living in the world of the ultra-rich and doesn't have a clue as to what life is like for the average American. It's so ridiculous of her to give advice such as saving eight months of living expenses. She's a joke with a huge ego.

Maybe she should walk in the shoes of an average American worker whose annual salary is $39,795. Wonder what she would say then? Good post and like your witty humor, as usual. Good luck to you!
Merc8tor - Thank you. I had to chuckle when you said you could save 8 months of living expenses if you didn't pay your bills and lived with someone else. That advice is just not practical for most of us, especially not right now.

Without a Paddle - I hear you. I think some people are naturally better at managing money than others, but it doesn't mean that we're all idiots. Thanks for the tip about visiting a tech school for automotive repairs. I've been thinking about going to a dental school for my son's dental work, too.

Stellaa - Well, we've had plenty of good recommendations here for what to drink when you feel that way!

Screamin' Mama - You said it! When's the last time you bought something simply because you wanted it? Yeah, me neither. I appreciate you reading and commenting.

Beth - You changed your photo! Very nice. Thanks so much for the support. :)

Americain - Ha ha! I think that's what the credit card companies want us to believe.

Pamela - Yes! She should try living on that average wage of $39,795 BEFORE TAXES and see how easy it is put away 8 months of living expenses or pay off your mortgage. It's doubtful that anyone can even afford to buy a house if making $39,000 per year. It's much different for this segment of the population.

Thank you all so much for reading and taking time to leave comments. I appreciate it.
Lisa--I just wanted to comment on your responses to comments. You're so good at it! You respond to everyone. I aspire to your graciousness--it's like making sure everyone at your party is having a good time.

...and you don't need to respond to this comment ; )
Merc8tor - Sorry but I had to respond; that was such a lovely thing to say. I like the analogy of my blog being a party. It sure has been fun! Thanks so much again. :)
This market bottom is looking awfully bubblly; the Enronization of the world's markets shall pass --- a great trader's book, Edwin Lefevere's, 'Reminiscences of a Stock Operator' reveals that the only common denominator of "successful" traders is that they've all gone broke at least once.
I'm asking, where's the resilience ? Keep in mind that many of the kingpins out there are short these markets, profiting wildly as the rank and file longs among us point to TEOTWAWKI. Just lurk over to YHOO finance and run a comparison chart on DDM/DXD (double up/double down), simplisticly the 'long and short' of it and you'll see the yin and yang of it. If this is the bottom, bubbles have one thing in common.
Keep in mind that the deregulators have been voted out. President Obama has his steady hands on the helm and many of us can see eventual smooth sailing.
When the going gets tough ....
You know what I see when I read this post?

A lot of "woe is me."

I'm not living in the world of the extremely wealthy. I don't have a trust fund, nor do I have a yacht or a corporate jet or a penthouse in Manhattan.

Yet I do have savings, am paying down my debt, and am simply amazed at people who just say "I can't do it" and then throw out things like "oh, only the superwealthy can do it."

Bullcrap.

If my parents can raise three kids and put them through college without EVER running up their credit cards, then there is simply no excuse for anyone to not have some savings and no credit card debt.

But hey, it's your life. Keep on saying that only the ultrawealthy can save any money and keep from running up the credit cards and making excuses.

If that's what you keep on telling yourself, then you never will have savings and you will always be paying interest to the banks.
J. Hart - Is that a glimpse of optimism I see peeking through in your comment? I hope that it is. Nothing is ever going to turn around while everyone's confidence is in the toilet. Thank you.

Tony - You would make a great coach; you don't tolerate any excuses! In defense of the people here, though, I think that all of us have been through an incredibly tough, frustrating, and mentally draining 8 years. While it can be possible for people to learn to manage money and thus get themselves out of trouble, it's not always easy to get our minds in the right place to do so. I think that many more people will feel like slaying this dragon again once all of the doom and gloom reports in the media begin to fade, confidence in both the market and in our government improves, and people finally see some positive change in their own lives (gainful employment, decreased costs, reduced taxes for the lower income levels, etc.)

I do hope that you've managed to read the comments from people who found your advice helpful. It's unfair to say that we've all simply given up.
Honestly, Lisa, you nailed it. If Suze Orman was supposed to be dispensing advice for a group other than the upper middle class, she would have been fired by now. Bear in mind, those that can do what she suggests don't need to listen to her for advice! To that end, her ideas are just about worthless for the majority of people that need advice. (I am not one to mince words, am I).

I think you should look into the hybrid car rebate potential. If you can get favorable terms (equal to or less than the lease) AND the best of the rebates (some are only $2,500) you can get the tax credit system working for you.

Perhaps someone needs to give Suze and the networks a run for their money as an Orman-antidote, or maybe someone out there already does. I am on OS so sporatically that I don't know anyone's level of expertise to take on this challenge. I hope someone reads this and GOES FOR IT!

PS Don't let any upper to upper middle class S-N-O-B make you feel bad. That class robbed from the Amerian people for eight years in collusion with the past Amdinistration.

You read my article on the housing market -- if that is how President Obama thinks, there will be other remedies as well. Hang in!

PS Maybe it would be a good exercise to see just now much money it wouldf take to put you "right", again? Then, follow Umbrellakinesis' older posts to make it manifest. Of all people, Lisa, I know you can do it. You are one of the best hearted people I have met here -- you will survive and (I pray) thrive!
Lisa - I adore you! You are always so caring. I did see your clarification about the hybrid credit on your post and I will definitely look into it. Of course, I also have to be mindful of where my head is or I get off-track mentally and lose sight of my goals.

As you mentioned, there is certainly a need for a "common person's financial expert" to help the folks in the lower income brackets gain some footing. As Tony pointed out, there are small, managable steps that we can take but they're hard to see when we're so underwater. I hope that someone will see this as an opportunity 'cause Suze is definitely not talking to us.

Thank you for stopping by and leaving such lovely comments. :)
A 15EEE? What is that?! Seriously three E's? Zoinks! That sounds like snow shoes!
Jess - Yeah, I think he has bigger feet than most basketball players! You never find size 15EEE on the bargain racks.
Mr. Wang is sooooooo empathetic.....

These is different times.... and before you go shoutin' "Bullcrap," if you are a financial advisor, you will want to look at each person's situation individually before you make assumptions....
Don't judge, until you know that person's situation.... And if you don't like what I say... I AM a financial advisor... I see this crap every day....
Your tags are worth the visit to this posting!
Wits - I think that this comment thread is a good cross-section of public opinion for these current times: 98% feel fairly hopeless about their finances while 2% feel fine. Instead of the 2% criticizing the 98%, maybe they have reasonable suggestions that they can offer instead. The bottom line is that we're all in this together. If things keep going as they're going, the 2% might find themselves suddenly sinking, too. Thanks for weighing in as a financial advisor.

Gary - Thank you!
you nailed this, sweetheart. which you've clearly been told in every way. i just wanted to add my voice in from my senior low income housing and my lavish SSDI monthly "income". my daily prayer is that my gums don't recede so far that i lose all my teeth, especially the front ones. another molar filling fell out last night and i had to file down the hurtful points that it left with a nail file.

love love lvoe and gratitude for your humor and wisdom.
Teddy - It's so nice to see you here, with all that you've got going on. I wish that the folks who say that we're all complaining could read the comments in this post. The fact that someone is trying to live on such a limited income that she needs to file down her molar with a nail file is so very wrong. Hoping for better times for all of us.
Yeah, she's a crackhead.

Great post.
Scruffus - Ha ha! Don't hold back how you truly feel.
Wow, Lisa. This is a great post, well-written, funny, entertaining, something we can really identify with. And SO TRUE. Congratulations on the great reception this post received!
Faith - Thank you. I especially love everyone's comments. :)
Way to go, Lisa! I've never subjected myself to Suzie Orman, but I already hate her just from reading this. Why does PBS give this woman air time, anyway? (Of course, my local affiliate also runs a "Best of Lawrence Welk" during pledge week fundraising, which gives you some indication of how in touch THEY are.)

Judging by your readership on this one, I think YOU'RE the gal who should have her own show. Or maybe you should do up a parody of Suzie Orman's books. I bet you could earn yourself some latte money.
Laurel! - I'm SO glad you're back! Suze Orman is clearly out of touch with the masses in this current economic crisis but you should watch her at least once. Then you'll REALLY understand the outrage.
I absolutely cannot stand that woman. She is so condescending and out of touch with the real world. Now she even deems herself able to give advice on personal issues also, trump card. I know you have been struggling Lisa hope things improve.
Rita - Wow, how did you find this one? I'm glad you did. Suze is still not giving advice that works for the majority of us. Thanks so much for stopping by.

Dwain - Thank you for finding this one, too. :)
(Originally Posted On Open Salon - Editor's Pick)

No comments:

Post a Comment