Monday, June 25, 2012

Changing a Dog-hater's Mind (or Not)


AUGUST 27, 2009 11:37PM

Changing a Dog-hater's Mind (or Not)

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A knock at the door...  Bailey,dog

The Dog, who had been napping peacefully, jumps excitedly to her feet. Someone’s at the door!  Oh boy oh boy oh boy.  Open it, open it, open it! Meeting people is my favorite thing.  The Dog positions herself so that upon entering, the visiting person will see her first.
 
The Visitor, an insurance auditor, walks in.  She's all business with her briefcase, papers, and computer.
 
The Dog doesn't care that The Visitor is an auditor; she loves friends, family, and auditors alike.  She presents her most enthusiastic greeting, complete with tail wagging and full-body wiggling.  Look!  I have a Raccoon!  I took the stuffing out all by myself.  The Visitor is not impressed.  She doesn’t even look at The Dog.
 
The Dog is puzzled.  Normally a tail-wag and a body-wiggle work on everyone.  She circles The Visitor, all the while gazing up at her with a big, goofy dog-smile and a fat pink tongue flopping from the side of her mouth. See?  I’m friendly!  Don’t you want to be my friend?  The Visitor grimaces about the blond dog hair now decorating her slim black skirt and takes a seat at the table.
 
The Dog decides to show off her good manners.  After all, good manners always make Mom smile.  The Dog sits obediently at The Visitor’s side, head held high and proud.  Surely this will make The Visitor love me. 

I'm sitting nicely.  Can we be friends?

The Visitor, fearing more dog hair, skooches her chair away from The Dog.

That’s OK.  Maybe she didn’t see how nicely I sat for her.  I’ll show her my Roadkill Skunk.  Bringing my Roadkill Skunk to Dad always gets me a pat on the head. 
The Dog runs to get her Roadkill Skunk, returning a few seconds later.  She eagerly approaches The Visitor with it in her mouth.  Isn’t this skunk fabulous?  I’ve added my own touches by chewing off part of the rubbery tire tracks and pulling out all of the stuffing.  Don’t you want to see it?
My Roadkill Skunk is fabulous
Again, The Visitor ignores The Dog.  She continues to tap tap tap on her computer, interested only in the numbers before her.
Undeterred, The Dog considers what else The Visitor might find appealing.  Once again, she leaves to find something that will cause The Visitor to notice her.  Maybe the Flat Squirrel will win her attention.  Whenever I carry Flat Squirrel around, the Young Boy smiles at me and pats my fur.  I love it when people pat my fur.
Moments later, she returns with a flat, droopy, fake-fur covered squirrel in her mouth.  The squirrel is missing its face from being chewed off by The Dog. The Dog is very proud of the improvements she’s made to Flat Squirrel’s appearance and wants desperately to share them with The Visitor.  To make doubly sure that the auditor notices her, she places Flat Squirrel squarely on The Visitor's all-business lap.

Unfortunately, The Visitor is not at all happy to find a chewed up Flat Squirrel on her lap.  She gives Mom a look suggesting that the audit might not go so well if Flat Squirrel is not removed at once. 

The Dog senses that her Flat Squirrel gift was not appreciated.  I don’t know why she isn’t pleased.  That’s my best toy.  I don’t share it with just anyone.  I even took care to lay it nicely on her lap so she could see where its face used to be.  I worked hard on chewing off those tiny little eyes and whiskers. Surely such a special present would make her love me!  


Bailey,dog

Seeming to be out of ideas, The Dog lies quietly between The Visitor and Mom.  She desperately wants to make friends with this new visitor but her attempts at friendship have not earned her even a single smile or a pat on the head.
 
A moment or two later, The Dog decides to try to make friends one final time. Quietly and calmly, she flattens her body until she is lying on the floor.  After lying still for a moment, she uses her powerful paws to crawl all the way under the table until she is right beneath The Visitor.
So far so good.  Now for my big move! 
Suddenly, The Visitor drops her pen and squeals, her voice dripping with disgust.  

“Ack!  Your dog is licking my toes!” 
 
The Dog understands perfectly:  epic dog fail.  She slithers out from under the table, shoots a sad glance to Mom, and retreats to her bed in the other room.   Sometimes, when things don't go well, only a nap makes sense.

Bailey,dog
 

Sadly, today was the day The Dog learned that just because she loves everyone, it doesn’t guarantee that everyone will love her back.

   
How can you not love me?
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Comments

For those who might be wondering, yes, I had two different audits in a 7-day period (fortunately, this one was only an insurance audit.)
Bwah. I'm allergic to cats, Lisa. I give off vibes to the most aloof cats to jump in my lap, lick my face and send me into respiratory arrest. Rated. I love your pooch!
Awww . . . what a sweet puppy! I would totally be his friend.
Sheepie - It always happens that way: the cats are drawn to people who are allergic to them. I felt bad for Bailey. This was the first time that someone didn't like her and she didn't know how to handle it.

Owl - Thank you! I'm sure she'd not only be your friend, but she'd share the Flat Squirrel with you, too.
Okay, there's something wrong with me that this post brought tears to me eyes. Please pat dog's fur from me.
T & D - There's nothing wrong with you. Consider the dog's fur patted.

LandP - Yes, the auditor was a turkey - a great big dog-hating turkey. I can't wait to see how much the dog lick costs us in additional insurance premiums!
One more reason to dislike insurance companies.

Rated
Whole leash it, did you have to let that person in your house?

What someone else said about insurance and evil. Or something.

Could you please give Bailey a great big ole full body hug and a long run at a really, really great dog park for me?

Poor puppy.

(What's an insurance audit?)
I could have sworn I put a somewhere in that other comment.
And rated. For poor, sweet Bailey's sake.
Awww, trust no one who does not love your best friend. That Visitor is a bitch, I suppose a symptom of leading a life as an auditor. I shall forever call her Big Meanie.
Oh, and I LOVE your dog! No flat squirrel needed!
I'm with T&D, this made me so sad for Bailey! More proof that dogs are, in many cases, better than human beings. Pat pat.

She reminds of of Dug. "My name is Dug. I have just met you. And I love you."

How can anybody resist that face?!
Why are we all speaking in italics?!
I love your dog, that auditor was just a tight-ass, but maybe you have to be a tight-ass to be an auditor
aw, what a sweetie!
Willie - As if we needed another reason to dislike them! Thanks for stopping by.

nerd cred - Oh, don't worry. She's been getting lots of attention. It was sad seeing such a pure, loving soul be rejected like that simply because she's a dog. To answer your question, an insurance audit is where they come out to compare your business's actual payroll and sales records for the policy period with those that were used when the policy was first written. It tells them if they owe you money or if you owe them money. I wouldn't be surprised if she penalizes us for dog lick!

Pretend Farmer - Big Meanie indeed! I'm sure that Bailey would not only share Flat Squirrel with you, but she'd also lick your toes. You're special that way.

merwoman - Aw, tell Dug I love him! Sounds like Bailey has a kindred dog spirit.

Roy - Thanks! Surprisingly, we had an audit by the State the week before and that auditor, who SHOULD be a tight ass, was as nice as could be. Of course, he also admitted to being a dog person.

Marcelle - Thank you! :)
Your Auditor sounds like me. Here's why. I don't hate dogs; I'm afraid of them. Yes, I know I know I know. YOUR dog is nice and gentle and sweet and never bit anyone. She's just "playing."That might be true. That might be logical. But a bark is like an alarm to me. I can't help it. I've been that way all my life. I have learned to live with and manage my phobia, at times when circumstances force me to be in the company of a large, noisy dog, by ignoring the dog as much as possible. That's what a grown-up learns to do when her heart is racing a mile a minute and she really just wants to run away. I wish "dog people" would just learn to respect the fact that not everyone can love their dogs. I wish dogs well. I give to charities that rescue stray ones. I just don't want them near me, if it can be helped. If it can't be helped, I manage as best I can to control my reactions, and I appreciate dog owners who get it, and will keep their dogs out of my way as much as they are able. My friend who has a large, loud dog keeps her dog crated during the breif periods when I must come inside her apartment. For the most part, we socialize outside her apartment because I know being crated isn't pleasant for the dog, but I also know that I can't have a normal conversation, or focus on much of anything at all, if she is loose, jumping around and barking. My friend gets it. Please just try to get it. Mutual respect. It's not that hard.
Eva - Believe me, I do understand. I was attacked by a dog when I was a child and it took me years to get over the trauma. I'm not saying that everyone needs to love dogs. I just wanted to show the viewpoint of a very friendly dog who didn't understand the rejection. Knowing that the auditor didn't want her around, I did my best to keep Bailey away from her. Bailey had her own ideas and really felt that given enough dog-charm, she could win her over.

Another thing: my dog is super-calm and rarely barks. She did not bark, jump or otherwise use bad behavior toward this auditor. I know that the dog hair wasn't appreciated, and I understand that, too. Again, my intent in this piece wasn't to show disrespect toward non-dog lovers, but to show the viewpoint of my very sweet but dejected dog.

I'm glad that you stopped by. I always appreciate other perspectives as well as the accompanying reminders to be compassionate towards everyone.
JK - If only we lived closer, you could come over and get all the dog-love you need from Bailey. She has a ton of it to give.
Your shot of Bailey on the bed - I just want to scratch her tummy.
Please, please, please tell me you were taking photos of Bailey producing eviscerated toy after eviscerated toy while the auditor was there.
I hate it when I can't see the photos...

Anyway, if the auditor really had a problem with dogs, all she had to do was ask you to put the dog away rather that be what I consider rude to a member of your household. And I'd love to know where you got the road-kill skunk toy! I think I need to get one each for the husband and the dogs :)
Sadly this used to be a characteristic of mine, try to win over people who obviously wanted nothing to do with me.

Happily, I outgrew that. Perhaps she will too.

Love your dog!
Will she be my friend?
Stim - I think that's her plan. No way could that position be comfortable!

Leeandra - Hey girl! Nice to see you.

Mrs. M - I COULD tell you that, but sadly, it would be a lie. I had to reconstruct photographic evidence of the sad events later.

Bluesurly - Oh no - you can't see the pictures? I'm sorry! I don't know what to do to help. I know how frustrating that is because usually I'm the one who can't see them.

Regarding the Roadkill Skunk, we found it at our local pet store. Considering we live in a rural area and found it here, they're probably widely available. It was the first toy I bought her when we adopted her. :)

Deborah - I was thinking that very thing while writing this: some of us just want to be loved and will try anything to convince others that we're lovable. I remember learning that sad lesson myself, and now my poor dog has to learn it, too. Give an ear scratch to Mighty Joe for me.

Dea-dog - Oh yes. You don't even have to ask her twice. :)
Aawww. What a sweet puppy. You know you have to distrust anyone that dislikes dogs or cats that much. Seems to me there must be something important missing in them. Like empathy and kindness. It was her loss.
She could be me! I had no idea I was so cute in my ways with guests.
Lucypuma - I was surprised that she didn't even seem to notice how hard this dog was trying to impress her. I couldn't help but wonder if she treats men the same way.

Harlee Girl - I'm sure that you're just as adorable. :)
You know, there are all kinds of toys for dogs that don't resemble dead animals.
I love her already...I hope she will like me back if I ever meet her.
Oh Lisa. Oh Bailey. I share myself with both of you, finding parallels galore. There have been people in my house that felt that way about my noisy, rambunctous children, cavorting about their feet, drooling, touching with sticky fingers. Yuck to them, yum to me. Of course having had dogs and cats and hamsters and hermit crabs and all the assorted pets while said babes were young, I feel your pain on Bailey's account.

Bailey, on the flip side, I too have played all my cards for an aloof someone, tongue hanging, tail wagging, trying to be noticed and appreciated. I too have failed with those black suited cardboard folks who were best left to their data while I curled up in a corner.

Thanks Lisa for sharing both sides of this human experience. Hugs to you both.
Steve - Actually, she has tons of toys but seems to prefer the animal varieties. I guess that's the Labrador part of her Labradoodleness.

Gary - How could she not like you? XOXO

Wood Elf - Thank you for such a lovely comment and for understanding exactly what I was trying to convey. If Bailey were my child, we'd be having a conversation right now about being true to yourself and not trying to impress people who aren't going to value you any way.
How lovely of you to write so sweetly from Bailey’s POV. I guess there’s a reason some people are destined to become insurance auditors. It’s hard, isn’t it, watching our children or pets first lessons on how some people are, for whatever reason, just not going to like them. Though your tone is always filled with wry humor, I, like others, feel sad.
I love your pooch. I wish he could come over for a play date. He and Frosty would make magnificent friends. Stuffed dog toys have a short shelf life in our house, too...especially if there is a magic squeeky thing inside.
David - Thank you for stopping by. Those life lessons come fast and furious, don't they?

Mamoore - Oh, I hear you about the magic squeaky thing. They're like the Holy Grail to dogs. Bailey just disemboweled another toy today in her quest for squeaky thing domination.
Bailey is adorable and there's definitely something wrong with that woman. She needs help as I don't understand anyone who doesn't like dogs; it's just not normal. Dogs are better than some people I know! Great pics of her, Lisa!
Great post Lisa. I've always been suspicious of people who don't like dogs. There is something missing in their DNA.
Pamela - I can understand not liking mean dogs, but Bailey is so calm and sweet. She even smiles, for godssake!

Brie - I kept wondering if this woman failed to recognize the efforts of people in her life, too. She had that type of self-absorbed demeanor.
The insurance auditor is an asshat. I wish you'd brought The Dog to our meet-up, we'd have patted like crazy.

PS Please tell The Dog it's okay to lick my toes any time.
AWWWW! Bailey, I'll be your friend. Never mind that snooty old auditor. Great piece, Lisa!
Sally - Wow! I bet she'd even share her Flat Squirrel with you.

Faith - Thanks! You can never have too many friends according to Bailey. :)
I am SOOOO late. This was awesome, Lisa. That poor dog is gorgeous and I would her all day long. Very funny, but I don't like that mean auditor lady.
Wonderful post - such endearing photos! My adopted Jeffrey would so love your dog! He's mostly Great Pyrenees but only 85 lbs. so mixed with something. He would LOVE a flat squirrel! I must do my own post on him now - I'm inspired! Rated.
Michael - You're not late; you're right on time. :)

Dragonlady - Thank you for stopping by. Please let me know when you put up your post about Jeffrey. Dogs help us remember all of the good that there is in the world and enable us to overlook the bad so much better.
I'm sorry I'm so late to this post - - I loved it!!! Beautifully written from the dear dog's point of view, funny and sad and sweet all at once. It's heartbreaking when doggie love isn't returned, but glad she has a loving family who appreciates all her gifts (in every sense of that word).
awww, poor Bailey (what a gorgeous friendly dog, btw) well, there will be other people to greet and plenty who will love her
Silkstone - What a lovely comment. You really made my day. Thank you so much! P. S. You weren't late at all. :)

Julie - Thanks for stopping by to read about Bailey's unrequited love. We took her camping with us this weekend and she found plenty of people to love who loved her back.
Karin (er, Baron) - Thank you! We learn much from the dog's example in our house, too.
I would have known she was a Doodle of some kind even if I hadn't looked at her picture. I've had two, and both of them have always greeted visitors by proffering their best and most beloved toys. (This year, Kay offered her kitty across the baby gate to the delighted trick-or-treaters who came to our door. They all chose candy instead, though.)
I would have known she was a Doodle of some kind even if I hadn't looked at her picture. I've had two, and both of them have always greeted visitors by proffering their best and most beloved toys. (This year, Kay offered her kitty across the baby gate to the delighted trick-or-treaters who came to our door. They all chose candy instead, though.)
Janet - You're correct; Bailey is a Labradoodle. She loves to parade through the house with her toys. She does it whenever we come home, but the toys she chooses are even more varied when we have guests. She tried so hard to win this auditor's heart which evidently was impossible. Belly rubs and ear scratches to Kay!
LadyHistory - Thank you! Bailey and I appreciate you finding this one after all this time.
(Originally Posted On Open Salon)

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