Monday, June 25, 2012

Dialogue With My Skinny Jeans


FEBRUARY 9, 2009 8:31AM

Dialogue With My Skinny Jeans

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They'd been taunting me for weeks; those jeans that I used to wear all the time but which are now too tight.  After expanding my diet over the holidays to include more celebratory foods, I found that my menu wasn't the only thing that had been expanding.  When I tried to put on my favorite pair of jeans and discovered that I couldn't comfortably zip them, I had to admit that it was time to get back on the diet.

I hung the Skinny Jeans in the front of my closet as incentive to reach my goal.  Every time I open the closet door, however, the Jeans remind me of how far I still have to go.  Instead of feeling inspired, I'm feeling like a failure.  Yes, clothing can have that kind of power.
 
Today the Jeans were especially unkind to me:
 
Skinny Jeans:  Pssst.  Hey you...
Me:  Me?
SJ:  Yes, you.  How about you try me on today?
Me:  (hesitating) Uh...Maybe some other time. 
SJ:  Why not today?
Me:  I don't have the time.
SJ:  You don't have the time, or you know I won't fit?
Me:  (sigh) Honestly?  I don't have time for all of the crying and self-loathing that will ensue when I discover that you don't fit.
SJ:  Ah...and whose fault would it be if I don't fit?
Me:  I don't know...
SJ:  Oh come on, you can't fool me.  I know all about the (cue Music of Impending Doomchocolate.
Me:  (gasp!) You do?  I mean, what chocolate?
SJ:  All of that chocolate you ate last week.  Good lord, woman, you sucked it up like a Hoover. You'll never be able to fit in me if you keep eating chocolate.
Me:  The chocolate was for medicinal purposes!
SJ:  Medicinal purposes?  That's quite a stretch, isn't it?
Me:  No, really.  Medicinal.  PMS can be ugly especially during the winter.
SJ:  So what about the week before that?  You had chocolate then, too.
Me:  (timidly) That was, um, pre-PMS? 
SJ:  You're pathetic.
Me:  (sigh)
SJ:  So are you enjoying wearing your fat jeans?
Me:  I'm not wearing fat jeans.
SJ:  Are you sure?
Me:  Well, I'm not wearing my fat-fat jeans.  I'm wearing my next-step-down-from-fat jeans
SJ:  (mockingly) "I'm wearing my next-step-down-from-fat-jeans"
Me:  It's true!  I'm making progress.  I'd been wearing my fat-fat jeans, but then yesterday, I put on my next-step-down-from-fat jeans and they fit. 
SJ:  As long as you don't breathe!
Me:  I can breathe.  I, um, just can't eat or drink anything while wearing them.
SJ:  Pathetic...
Me:  Look, the least you can do is to try to encourage me. 
SJ:  The least you can do is stick to your diet.
Me:  Alright, that's it!  I'm going to fit into you if it's the last thing I do.
SJ:  You won't last a day...
Me:  Watch it...I'll put you in the donation bag!
SJ:  OK, OK... Geez!  Can't you appreciate that I'm trying to be helpful?
Me:  Helpful? You're abusive!
SJ:  I'm sorry.  It's just that I miss you.  I miss all of the fun we used to have together.
Me:  We did have some good times, didn't we?
SJ:  We sure did.  And we will again. 
Me:  Yes...
SJ:  Now about that hairstyle of yours...
Me:  (slams closet door)


*Special thanks to my friend Robin for coining the term “fat-fat jeans.”  myspace view counter

Comments

Damn those skinny jeans!
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You're beautiful inside and out.
I love this conversation and hope that you get your sweet revenge on your jeans soon enough!
LMAO (if only it was that easy)! So enjoyed this, Lisa. Especially liked the distinction between your fat jeans, and your fat-fat jeans. I can't think of any item of clothing that has caused more grief than women's jeans. Stretch denim is a miraculous invention, but it just doesn't go far enough.
Lisa, I hate those conflicts with the blue jeans...especially after they have just been washing! Thanks for the post with the smile.
I have experienced somewhat similar jean-related anxiety, thanks to a size 32 pair of Diesel jeans. I put them on one day after not having worn them for awhile, and they were, ummm, constricting. "Oh, they shrunk in the wash," I told myself. But, no, they hadn't shrunk in the wash. I had un-shrunk. Yikes. What a blow to the ego. (Yes, this happens to guys, too.) So I put them in the back of my closet and started buying 34s. They were too loose, but that kinda made me feel skinny. Then I bought some new jeans, size 33, and they fit just fine, thank you. In fact, they're quite comfortable. On occasion I can squeeze into those size 32 Diesels--but I'm convinced that Diesel stuff is smaller than they say. Anybody care to back me up on this?
Funny and comforting to those of us who consume more calories than we burn.
Hilarious! If women have nothing else in common it's having clothing of varying sizes....just in case.....;-D
Greg - You're sweet. (I'll get that check right in the mail...)

Moana - I'll stuff them in the donation bag. Then they'll be sorry!

Dustbowldiva - Wouldn't it be helfpul if we really COULD LMAO? That would save a lot of trouble.

Mary - I hate when that feeling of first putting on a pair of jeans after having washed them. You have do like 47 deep knee bends to stretch them out enough so you can wear them out in public.

Chris - I'm glad to hear that guys have jeans-angst, too. You could very well be right about the Diesel jeans being cut smaller. I know that fit varies widely among women's clothing brands.

Coogansbluf - Your mama probably never had to listen to wise-ass jeans berating her. Smart woman!

Gayle - Thank you! We've got to laugh about it, you know?
So funny, Lisa. We're all alike and I hate it when those jeans are sassy and talk back. Your hair looks great! Good luck!
onecorgilover - Yes, we sure do have the size ranges, don't we? Thank you for stopping by!

Pamela - Battling with the jeans is a constant grind. Thanks for the compliments. :)
I have seasonal clothes, a 36 in summer and 38 in winter. I keep the skinny ones in the back of the closet, where I don't have to listen to them.
How the heck did my jeans get into your closet?
p.s. LOVED this piece! Ha!
OMG ... LOVE IT!!! I do know the "fat-fat jeans" ... and they suck!!!
Ha! Great convo! I had a similar one this week with my skinny jeans - but it was a little different because I forced myself into them. They felt they had been violated and my muffin top agreed.
And this is why I never wear jeans. They can turn on you in an instant. Nasty, nasty creatures.
Chocolate makes my jeans shrink too, so I have a "skinny jeans drawer" which I open from time to time to remember the good times. At least then the best they can do is a muffled mumble.

Very funny.
Hilarious! Those damn skinney jeans. I know the feeling, I have two closets full of clothes I can't wear because I gained to much weight when I quit drinking. DAMN IT!!
I loved this and could picture in my head being there myself.
Great post..
Talking jeans sound like the work of Satan.
May I suggest burning them over a bonfire fueled by Snickers wrappers?

(thumbified because I think you're perfect and I am not an inanimate object.)
Lisa, you are kinder to your skiny jeans than I am! For me, it's a few chlice letter words, feelings of disgust and a quick toss to the back of the closet, as if they will fit next time! Ugh! Great post!
Nice EP. girl!
I know that voice! It hangs out in my drawer too! I'm such a defeatist though that last time I bought jeans I got them a size bigger than I need just to keep my self esteem up. Or I can use them for pms pants...
Oops! I meant to say, "A few choice four letter words" to my skinny bitch jeans!
Chocolate's a whole lot cheaper than antidepressants. You can use the savings to buy mute jeans.
Talking pants are the work of Satan.

Hint to make jeans of ANY size fit better--don't put them in the dryer. Get one of those skirt hangers with the clippies at the top and hang them to air-dry instead either outside or by an open window. They'll be a bit stiff when you first put them on, but will fit much better.
Yay! Comments!

Jimmy - What a great idea! Just accept the fact that winter weight gain is inevitable and keep those small sizes quiet in the back of the closet. Genius!

Marple - I don't know but you can have them back; they're mean!

1IM - Yes, but at least they're not the fat-fat-fat jeans.

Julie - Aw, muffin tops. That's a whole 'nother post right there.

m. a. h. - Jeans ARE nasty. But what is the alternative?

Seattle K8 - I love it: a "muffled mumble!"

fireeyes - Wow, drinking actually kept you thin?

Jodi - That's it! A Snickers-wrappers-fueled bonfire. That's even worse than the donation bag. Mwahahaha!

Cathy - I like the idea of hurling them to the back of the closet.

Jess - You're too funny!

Mrs. Michaels - I just had an image of going to the mall and seeing displays touting, "MUTE JEANS! Tired of your jeans insulting you? Buy these!"

Leeandra - I do that now. I hang my jeans up and when they're totally dry, I put them in the dryer for a couple minutes just to soften them. This trick keeps me from having to wear the fat-fat-fat jeans. :)
Psst... Walmart, White Stag stretch jeans with elastic in back. Best factor: they are mute.

Great post.
I think everyone should freely wear mumus. Just think about the decline in the birth rate. What good they would do for the environment!
Sally - I'll keep your recommendation in mind. Who needs jeans that can't STFU?

angrymom - Ha ha! I love your muumu Public Service Announcement.
Absolutely hilarious, Miss Lisa. I think I love you more with each post! Fat jeans..........hilarious! He hehehe........
Now Lisa, I bet if you put on a pair of those Spanxx hose of yours underneath, you could squeeze into those skinny jeans with no problem, though you could end up cutting off the blood supply to your feet.

What a great idea for a post! You have such a funny imagination. This was hilarious. (And I could see a whole series here...talking shoes that drag you into bakeries...)

Btw, I also eat chocolate for "medicinal" purposes.

Oops...gotta run..around here, we have talking laundry...and it's telling me I'd better think about throwing in a load one of these months.
You're so funny. I've been having the pleasure of trying to happily get into the old swimsuits this week. Gak!
Yep drinking kept me thin, because I was on a liquid diet.. LOL
I gained I think 15 pm 20 lbs the first 30 days sober. They say it is normal because your body has to adjust to not having it anymore and actually having real food instead..LOL
I will lose it back soon enough, it is slowly dropping off just not fast enough.
Maybe the two of us can find an online work out club and work out together..lol Hey it is idea..
Jeans are like a conscience, aren't they?
Loved it.
Michael - You're the best. :)

Laurel - Shhhh! ix-Nay on the anx-Spay! ::shudder:: It's much too dangerous to go that route again.

Connie - Ugh, swimsuits! I hope you're going somewhere nice to make up for the torture involved in trying on swimsuits.

fireeyes - I wish that reading and typing were workouts. Then we'd all be thin on OS. Congrats to you for kicking drinking. That can be a hard one.
Lea - "Conscience" is a great analogy. I wish mine would take a day off from trying to redeem me though.
Congrats to you on the EP...
Yeah I wish it was then we all would be thin..lol Doesn't hurt to dream.
Thank you! for the congrats.
Funny how your jeans not only talk, but in perfect abusive co-dependent form, takes you to the very edge of abuse, then pulls you back with the need and the love. Ah, the cycling of fighting and making up. Classic. Nice. Very funny and clever, Lisa. Thank you.
Thank Goddess for Spanx, which can help you avoid the fat-fat jeans altogether!
Even if you can't eat, breathe, or ever get rid of the "watermark" the waistband leaves your stomach....
I'm so glad I'm not a woman so I don't have to go through that. I'm also a damn liar.
I'd burn those jeans in a bonfire to make s'mores if I were you -- no one knows the size of the jeans you're wearing but you, and jeans that fit are nicer in their chats with you.
I always liked it when my sister called that stuff that hangs out from beneath your bra in back, "bra fat." I never knew what to call it.

I find it so interesting your clothes talk to you. It must take hours to get dressed in the morning!!!

(hugs)
ohhhhhhhhh, these conversations are so exhausting aren't they? and really, are we the only ones that hear them? how do others not know what we 'talk' about before we even leave the bedroom in the morning?

thanks for putting it into words. dammit.
Loved it. I keep my skinny jeans in my "In Your Dreams" bin with all my other clothes that I love but can't fit into but refuse to throw away just yet....
You could threaten them with this...

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JimmyMac (sorry for calling you johnny earlier), I keep my size 32 Diesels in the back of my closet. And a pair of size 31 jeans with the broken zipper...I put them on the floor of the closet to shame them and step on them every chance I get. When I was in college I was a 28 or 29 (not unhealthy, just skinny). Back when I could eat anything I wanted. Oh, what hath time wrought!
My jeans keep falling off. Not because I'm losing weight, but because I'm shooting out of them like paste from a stepped on tube.
Julie Tarp "[My jeans] felt they had been violated and my muffin top agreed."
That is way too funny. Maybe even funnier than the post, which was really funny. Yay!
(i just feed mine chocolate so they can keep up with me and know who is in charge!)
great post!!
yeah, why I wear sweatpants with drawstring waistbands...
OMG, your skinny jeans just called my skinny jeans and they are laughing about us!
David - Oh great. I'm codependent with my clothing! That's probably not healthy, huh?

Melissa - Spanx and I aren't on speaking terms. Click on my "Dieting and Dangerous Underwear" piece in the list on the left to find out why. By the way, it's very nice to meet you!

Cap'n - I'm happy to see you here! I always enjoy your comments on other people's blogs.

Lekkers - I like that idea! Very nice to meet you.

Lisa - Oh, not "back fat." That's worthy of a post with muffin tops.

Wakingupslowly - See? We all have those conversations. And to think that me can't figure out why it takes us so long to get dressed. It's the long-winded jeans. Duh!
LandP - No need to feel guilty. If it weren't for you suggesting chocolate, my own brain would have come up with the idea. Besides, is a life without chocolate really worth living? I think not.

Silkstone - I have one of those "In My Dreams" bins, too. It's not fair.

Leeandra - That looks like some sort of medieval jeans torture device. I like it!

T & D - Oh, what a visual that is!

Cindy - That's it; show those jeans whose boss.

Hyblaean - I'll bet your pants don't harrass you like mine do.

Deborah - Ha ha! Those insolent jeans are at it again.
Wow. I thought I was the only person whose clothes taunted her. =o) Oh, I've been there. And I get a charge when my current clothing fits more loosely than they did last week. (All this coughing I'm doing has got to be burning some calories, right?) For a garment, your skinny jeans have got quite a lip on them. Rated for a good laugh.
Ohhhh this is so good. Makes me realize that I have conversations with my Skinny Jeans too. They used to beckon for me to try them on. And even though I knew they wouldn't fit, I did it anyway and felt like shit for the rest of the day. WHY do we do this to ourselves? My Skinny Jeans lost closet privileges because of bad behavior and now live in the bottom drawer.
Damnit! Skinny jeans can be so harsh!

Great post. I love how subversive the chocolate is to the mission of the skinny jeans.
I so resemble these remarks ;0). I hide the skinny jeans in a box but the get together and yell at me in a chorus.

Black jeans are in style now. I'm convinced they make me look slimmer. So try black jeans ;0)
Shiral - Oh you are FAR from being the only one taunted by her clothing. Mine is quite merciless to me as you can see. Thanks for sharing my pain!

Alpha Whiskey - I love that; your Skinny Jeans lost closet privileges due to bad behavior. That's right! Why should I give up prime closet real estate for clothes that make me feel bad?

Scruffus - Chocolate is ALWAYS subversive to the mission, but does that stop me?

Dorinda - Black jeans are definitely more slimming and consequently are less damaging to the psyche. I'll get some tomorrow. :)

Umbrella - It's sad but true; I think all of us have that pair of Skinny Jeans into which we're forever trying to squeeze. It's like an enormous sisterhood of unhappy women. Maybe we should all pass around our Skinny Jeans to women they'd actually fit and forget about the terminal dieting.
Jane - Yes, dishes are disrespectful creatures, too. Thank you for stopping by. :)
I think your jeans must be friends with my jeans and I get the feeling they're talking about me all the time, and not very politely. Thanks for calling them out.
god, i love you. perfect dialogue with the skinny jeans and they are horribly abusive. i was looking at my 15 lbs. heavier thighs yesterday and having that conversation with Kfuckradio and then remembered a piece by anne lamott -- may even be on salon.com -- about her thighs and how she came to call them the Aunties and to treat them with respect and to care for them with lotion and such.

i'm decided to try to do that since my bipolar meds and my dark chocolate jones make it unlikely that these aunties will go anywhere for a while, even with the suppressed radiation appetite.

lo velove lvoe and graditude to you and please come see my new ric tresa banner and rate it for wonderfulness and, if you ever hav ethe time, give me your thoughts on the 2nd younger man encounter. i felt proud and now i feel rejected. onward and upward.
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For years I've worn Misses Levis 501's, size 31/30. They were perfect! Okay, a little too loose in the thighs, but overall -- always looked good, great for riding on the Harley. Always on sale at Mervyns. And then one day I walked into Mervyn's looking for my usual pair, only to discover that they'd stopped making my favorite jeans! I hurried home, checked out the internet. I COULD buy a pair of my favorite DISCONTINUED jeans, but it would cost me -- like $100 (as opposed to $29.99). NOW they sell 501's as "boyfriend's" jeans. Excuse me. I'm married. I haven't had a boyfriend for 30 years. I don't have the hips of a young boy. So (obviously, I'm an American) this has been a HUGE crisis in my life. And in my husband's life because he has to listen to me whine about it. I don't think it's a coincidence that the jeans were discontinued and THEN Mervyn's went bankrupt. Anyway, thanks for the fat-jeans dialogue. I'm not sure if it's universal, but it's definitely USA. Joy = perfect jeans.
Your skinny jeans are channeling my mother!
DCV - We've got to band together to stop this verbal abuse from our clothing!

Teddy - Oh, I forgot about Anne Lamott's "aunties." She has a much healthier relationship with her body than I have with mine, but it's something to strive for. I DID see your lovely banner but did not read your post yet. I will head over there shortly.

suzie - You're kidding! They discontinued Levi's 501 jeans? I need some lycra in mine these days, but I used to wear them when I was younger. You're right about joy=perfect jeans. Good luck in your new search. Hope the Fitting Room Gods are on your side.

jenshrader - uh-oh; are we sharing a mother? If so, you can have her back.
M. Chariot recommends tossing out-of-date fashions into the fireplace while sipping champagne.
Hey, Lisa, you are a hit, hit, hit!!!
Congrats. I get here one day after you post and the list of comments is miles long. So just want you to know you deserve it.

Don't bother to reply to this. I know you appreciate it. Just start thinking about the next clever thing to write about.

Good and funny job.

Monte
Frickin' skinny jeans! I have a pair taunting me from my closet too. And fat-jeans that I have to wear instead. Oh, the horrors! I really appreciate that you can make humor from it. Thanks!
Chocolate IS medicinal- even in vast quantity- and no one will tell me otherwise. Lalalalalala I can't HEAR you!
They really are like companions, and I do believe they shrink, even when we wear them.......the Li' bastards......
M. Chariot - But of course; a fine champagne is the perfect accompaniment to burning one's insolent clothing.

Monte - My friend...you are always so kind and supportive. Thank you. :)

Jacey - I'm thinking that maybe a big Jeans bonfire is in order.

JustJuli - Thank you for saying that. Chocolate IS medicinal. Lord knows it's saved the lives of certain family members I know.

Gary - Ha ha! I have a sister-in-law who says that her clothes shrink in her closet over the winter. Could be...
You are FUNNY! Last winter, I had not lost the previous winter's fat. I went straight to sweatpants:-( Great dialogue!
M B - It's a constant battle, isn't it? Sweat pants are starting to look like a viable option. Thank you for laughing with me.
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